It feels like anything is mowed down on the internet. I’ve been a dev for a long time too, and I never feel sure when I chose a stack for a new toy project (in my day job I rarely get to chose, so that’s a non issue there)
Ecosystems matter, though. In fact, I think they’re the hardest part to learn for most languages.
You can try to get away from NPM, but you’ll always run across instructions on how to do a thing in NPM. Do it any other way, and you’re on your own.
You can try to write Java in a less verbose way, but the standard library will fight you before we even talk about third party libs.