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-141 points

Sex ed is ideally about healthy relationships and safe sex. A prostitute is probably the exact opposite of what you want for that.

Sex-as-industry is a deeply fucked up field that is almost guaranteed to build resentment and unhealthy associations with sex.

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120 points

I dated an ex-escort for a while and the relationship was just fine. I think you’re talking without any real experience.

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A friend was an escort for a while and she’s one of the most loving and caring people I know. I would trust her with everything, especially relationship advice.

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It can be fine. That doesn’t make them the “most qualified to teach sex ed”

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So what would you pick? I’d rather take her than some religious nut that preaches/screeches abstinence.

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Eh… do you hire the person with the degree or the one with ten years of industry experience?

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Wouldn’t this kind of be like drug addicts telling children why drugs are bad?

Very few ways to better learn why something is right than far reaching consequences for doing it wrong.

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I don’t think we should teach that sex is wrong or bad, but yeah, she probably is experienced in what can go wrong and can talk from more experience than most of us.

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More like a drug dealer telling children why drugs are bad. (The role analogous to the drug addict would be the prostitute’s client.)

And, frankly, that’s not a bad idea either.

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It’s an imperfect comparison because sex workers sell their body and take on risks that way. Drug dealers sell a product and aren’t necessarily endangering themselves in the same way.

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To be fair, throughout history most marriage have been completely transactional.

The idea that a marriage should be based on romantic love is a new concept that would have been seen as unhealthy throughout most of human history

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There are love stories and sonats that are thousands of years old.

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Nah, I’d argue that you’re both partially correct.

The romanticized ideal of starting a family/marriage on the basis of “true love” has been around forever.

Reality has been more of a mixed bag throughout large patches of human history. Accidental pregnancies, dynastic politics and plain economical necessities were probably foundations for many more marriages than actual love.

(There’s also that whole can of worms of whether “True Love at First Sight™” even is a good foundation for marriage, but that’s neither here nor there.)

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A woman who has sex for work would be very concerned about doing so safely. She is likely going to know about STDs and pregnancies as well as how to prevent them and how to deal with them if/when they come up.

She has experience in setting expectations, limits, and breaking off sex when she needs to.

She is going to have more experience with the human body, what’s “normal” physically, what warning signs are for various STDs.

She’ll likely be the least judgemental person for someone to talk to when it comes to sex and sexual relationships.

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Yeah, you’re talking out of your ass.

You need to actually research this topic instead of believing conservative talking points about the sex work industry.

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No you’re right. They don’t have extremely high rates of being sexually assau…

45 to 75 percent.

And this isn’t exactly a conservative source. Turns out the people playing for sex aren’t always the greatest people.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://swopusa.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/FACT-SHEET-Sexual-Assault-Prevalence-Among-Sex-Workers-USA.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwipyp-E1-yCAxWDlGoFHdfiDGIQFnoECBQQAQ&usg=AOvVaw06F00deZ5se8DU56cXaMyP

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I never said they don’t have extremely high rates of being sexually assaulted - you did and then you proceeded to argue against yourself.

If you read the document you linked though, you’d see that it actually supports the decriminalisation of sex work because this would reduce the amount of violence experienced by sex workers.

It also says that the proportion of men who are violent against sex workers is quite small and those men are serial offenders.

Again, stop listening to conservatives on this and actually read the documents instead of trying to find things to support your own point of view.

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Sex-as-industry is a deeply fucked up field that is almost guaranteed to build resentment and unhealthy associations with sex.

It’s literally not. In fact, some people who do sex work develop an almost therapeutic relationship with their clients, since the intimate environment promotes emotional sharing.

It’s literally one of the oldest professions of human society, and the stigma against it is entirely rooted in puritanical religious attitudes, which have been proven to be antithetical to healthy relationships, if not actively promoting abuse.

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Victim blaming. Wow.

They are experts in the industry and it’s not a justification. If it was your justification I’ll just let your next doctor know that you don’t want a lecture by an expert in the field but someone else entirely. I’ll just grab today’s horoscope. Holdup.

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