Could be as trivial as a type of food, a TV show, or something more serious.
Social interaction. It would be nice to not just be so exhausted talking to people. It would be nice to not dread the idea of sending someone a text, like it’s some insane mental effort and not the smallest thing. It would be nice to not be lonely but totally unwilling to do what it takes to correct it.
I’m totally the same. Last night a coworker text me to let me know they would be back in the office tomorrow after taking a couple days off. It took me almost 10 minutes to come up with “ok, see you tomorrow then”. I rewrote that text at least a dozen times. Why the hell is something so simple a monumental effort for me?
The key difference between introverts and extroverts is that for introverts social interactions drain our mental energy while extroverts are energized by interactions.
One key thing to remember here is introvert/extrovert isn’t about the level of shyness or anxiety though. You could be an extremely outgoing introvert or a shy extrovert. It truly is only about the relationship between your mental energy and social interaction. The comment above sounds more like social anxiety than introversion, though could be both.
Often. But more often not. It’s nice to be alone, because a lot of human interaction involves unnecessary drama. Maybe it’s just our brains protecting us.
Running. It’s the cheapest, easiest form of exercise, but it absolutely bores me to death and i just can’t deal with it after 5 minutes.
I don’t mind most other forms of exercise, it’s just that they all require more time, effort or resources. Going to the gym requires a gym membership, basketball requires friends, etc.
You’ve gotta do it for even longer to burn the same amount of calories though!
I’ll admit running is difficult at first because it requires your active thoughts to keep going. Depending on fitness level (mainly regarding weight, not musculature or cardiovascular), after a month or so of a 3xWk plan, you can start to get into a point where it starts getting more sexond nature and you get more of your mind to yourself and the distraction from running becomes more related to your ability to regularly distract yourself with just your thoughts and/or audio (music, books, podcasts, etc).
But yeah, the beginning is really hard. I used to run, got pretty good at it (would go on 8mi runs with a sub-9 minute pace on the weekend) but then stopped for like… 7 years. Just started again a month or two ago. I can only run for about 25 minutes at like a 12 minute pace. I’m also overweight and over 40 which isn’t helping anything. But when I started (or restarted as it were) I couldn’t run for 5 minutes straight. I do get shin splints, I was getting sore muscles all over, but slowly I’m getting better at it. At even just the 20ish minute mark though, I need something to distract me. Right now it’s music, but I’ve been considering podcasts as I feel they generally get me more distracted.
Same for swimming. I don’t actually dislike the activity itself, but I’m not at ease in the sea and I despise the swimming pool.
@eyy @MisterHavoc as someone who might be mistaken as being active, I loathe running and wish I didn’t. Every other exercise (most of which I love) is just less convenient. Biking, swimming, hiking, sports - all require extra steps (equipment or environment or other people). If I liked running even a little more it would be so practical to just throw on shoes and go whenever.
But the moment my legs are pumping and my lungs are aching there’s nothing to distract me from feeling like I’m DYING.
this is exactly how I feel! I don’t get any sense of achievement from running a certain distance or running faster than I did before, and it feels terrible (and I know I can stop that feeling if i just stop running). Almost every other sport gets me that sense of achievement but requires more time, money or effort in some form.
Try low intensity while listening to a podcast. 80% of runs are best done at a pace where you can easily hold a conversation and breath through your nose (5/10 effort).
I’m listening to history podcasts now and it feels incredibly relaxing and makes my whole day better. Now I don’t even like rest days anymore. 🙃
It’s all about the activity. My younger kid is extremely athletic: he did a 5k on a whim and kept up with the runners club without preparation. However he hates running, and gives similar reasons. His activity is soccer. Soccer gives a point to running. That kid will run the entire game if he’s playing soccer, but even he can’t stand running
Socializing. There are lots of benefits to being connected, but I just can’t stand people. People are the worst, and yeah, that includes me.
Cilantro. Fucking soapy-assed tasting bullshit. I want to like you, but genetics won’t let me.
TBH, this doesn’t make any sense, you can buy both cilantro and coriander for cooking. They’re both regular ingredients, so they’re both culinary terms.
Normally cilantro is the leafy part and coriander is the seeds (you can get whole or crushed).
Never got a soapy taste from cilantro, but as a kid, a suicidal stink bug landed on a PB&J I was eating.
At first I was pissed off at my brother, cuz that bastard put cilantro on a fucking PB&J!!! I spit the bite out. Wad of partially chewed sandwich, mixed with insect legs and broken shell lands on my plate: no cilantro. Brother is now looking up at me with a genuine expression of concern: not a prank.
Lesson 1: look before you bite.
Lesson 2: Stink bugs taste exactly like cilantro.
Lesson 3: …cilantro tastes exactly like stink bugs.
The tiniest little flek of that shit can ruin an otherwise delicious bite of food.
@Sterile_Technique @PunnyName in some dystopian future where cilantro has gone extinct, stinkbugs get crushed up and dyed green as fake cilantro powder, much like horseradish pretends to be wasabi… What a dark place that must be
This for sure. I have the soap gene as well. I love Mexican food, and it’s nigh impossible to find much traditional Mexican without cilantro.
Heads up: cooking cilantro should eliminate the soapy flavor.
Also be aware many indian dishes contain cilantro/coriander
Oh yes I forgot about Indian. I have to be picky about where I go so I can avoid cilantro. Cooking does help a little bit the soap is still there for me. It’s really overwhelming in dishes to me.
Is parsley related to Cilantro?
I really really cannot stand parsley in anything, it is bitter and disgusting and mu workplace puts it in everything.
I’m the opposite. I pretty much sub out cilantro for parsley in every dish.
Maybe I need to try some cilantro to see if I am some sort of rare mutant.
Gym exercise.
For most of my life I always hated the idea of exercise just for the sake of exercise. I would try to find activities where exercise was an associated benefit. Hiking, skateboarding, rock climbing etc. Eventually being an adult slowly killed all of my recreational fitness outlets and I ended up teetering on the edge of overweight.
With the goal of getting back in shape, I tried a few gyms but I never got into it. It always felt like a chore. Turns out the problem for me was that I am a cheap bastard, and I was only considering the least expensive discount shitty gyms. One of my friends convinced me to try out a pricier more fully featured gym and it made a huge difference. Well maintained equipment, group classes, child care while you work out, showers that didn’t scare me. It was a lot less intimidating, and it switched the gym experience from feeling like a chore to feeling like a break.
It’s been a couple years now, and I’ll say, having once thought I’d never be a gym person, I’m now definitely a gym person.
Not saying it’d be the same for everyone, just what ended up working for me.
I’m the same and as someone who’s worked remotely for 10 years, my life was way too sedentary. I got a dog which helped as the guilt of not walking her is plenty of motivation to get out daily, but whilst it helps, it wasn’t exactly making me fit and healthy, just a bit LESS unhealthy.
I discovered rock climbing 3 months ago though and my life is completely changed, all exercise and diet is done with my current project route in mind and after 3 months I’m already far healthier and stronger than I’ve ever been before.
Phenomenal sport, as someone who HATES the gym I really recommend everyone tries it at least once. It’s as intense as any workout and 100x more fun.
You know, an irrational fear of heights stopped me when I tried it with a friend some years back. But since getting really into hiking, and doing so on some pretty steep trails, it was pointed out to me that my fear of heights is less acute than before we started.
I’ll give it another shot. Maybe I can do it now.
Awesome, if heights are still an issue. Try bouldering instead, it’s just climbing with no ropes and only up to 4ish metres off the ground (above soft mats for landing on if you fall).
It’s probably more popular than toprope (higher) climbing these days as its more accessible and can easily be done in groups of friends. Requires more strength and less endurance, but equally fun (more so for some people) as top roping.
It’s probably a very good way to get over your fear though, just having to jump from 12m with a rope does take some willpower initially but I don’t even think about it anymore.
For most of my life I always hated the idea of exercise just for the sake of exercise. I would try to find activities where exercise was an associated benefit. Hiking, skateboarding, rock climbing etc. Eventually being an adult slowly killed all of my recreational fitness outlets and I ended up teetering on the edge of overweight.
With the goal of getting back in shape, I tried a few gyms but I never got into it. It always felt like a chore. Turns out the problem for me was that I am a cheap bastard, and I was only considering the least expensive discount shitty gyms. One of my friends convinced me to try out a pricier more fully featured gym and it made a huge difference. Well maintained equipment, group classes, child care while you work out, showers that didn’t scare me. It was a lot less intimidating, and it switched the gym experience from feeling like a chore to feeling like a break.
Not saying it’d be the same for everyone, just what ended up working for me.
