Hi European here.

I always heard America is pretty competitive and that the people are very direct/speak their mind.

I’m quite the sensitive person, so I was wondering if it could be hard for me if I would ever go to America and if I needed to become more “tough”.

And would someone like me even be welcomed or would I be rejected?

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The country will kill you quicker than the people. If you do come, remember this place is MASSIVE, the biggest mistake tourists make is going exploring natural spaces. If you aren’t prepared, didn’t bring a compass, and can’t navigate by tree moss and the sun, then it is extremely easy to wander off, and never be found. If the road you are on suddenly switches from asphalt to gravel or dirt, you want to stop your car immediately, consult your navigation, and a damn atlas just in case, and turn back towards the nearest shreds of civilization. Exposure to the elements in this country can be, and frequently is, lethal. The less said about the wildlife the better, but if you’re in a car you’re mostly safe.

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Ah the first time you drive past a herd of elk.

Absolutely pants shitting fear. Like primal dread.

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I worked in Yellowstone for a season.

The elk had their babies during that time.

Trying to get from one of the employee dorms to the employee bar, and we got pushed off course by a mama elk.

We wound up on the employee cafeteria loading dock, as elk can’t (or won’t?) climb stairs.

We had to get rescued by park rangers.

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People in the US probably won’t say what they mean directly the same way you would in Europe. The biggest thing I’ve noticed in the EU is that, to an American, most people are horrifically blunt to the point of being rude. So if you’re used to that you should be fine.

Unless you are very fluent in English a lot of American rudeness tends to be very underhanded, so you might not really realize it anyways? It’s either that or batshit crazy.

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Don’t go. It’s a failed state. And it will get worse in the future.

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It is so variable.

It is generally true that folks on this side of the pond are more direct and blunt than folks that I’ve met from Europe, or even from our lovely neighbors to the north. But I wouldn’t say it’s aggressively so. It’s also the case that it’s a matter of degrees.

I’m from the southern US, and we tend to be way less blunt, and more wordy than many other areas. Like, the New Yorkers I’ve known will just up and say something, in one sentence, and it’s up to you to like it or lump it. A southerner is likely to edge around a subject a little more, and feel you out before deciding how to say something, and then say it with relatively careful wording.

I’m not even talking about harsh things, I’m talking about something like asking if you like hamburgers.

It isn’t perfect, but we tend to be nice to visitors. Not everyone, and not as much as we should, but the places I’ve lived, or visited long enough over time to get to know people, you’re more likely to run into people being curious and helpful as a tourist, or even immigrant, than they would be to someone from the next town over.

So, I don’t think you’d have to “toughen up” to visit or live here.

The caveat to all of that is that there are assholes here. There are everywhere, but we’re a big country, so even a 1% asshole group is a lot of people.

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Don’t move to New Jersey or the Philly area, and you’ll probably be fine.

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Most of the Northeast really.

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And avoid the southeast

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They call us passive aggressive. Pffh

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