310 points

I would think that would make her uniquely qualified to teach it.

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Yes, many academic disciplines view fieldwork as essential. Those who abstain can even be labeled as armchair theorists.

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“No officer, you don’t understand! I offered her a large grant for her to do research. Not research for me, it’s for the high schoolers! How else are they supposed to learn proper technique? Jail? For what? Providing a proper education?!”

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Sex ed is ideally about healthy relationships and safe sex. A prostitute is probably the exact opposite of what you want for that.

Sex-as-industry is a deeply fucked up field that is almost guaranteed to build resentment and unhealthy associations with sex.

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I dated an ex-escort for a while and the relationship was just fine. I think you’re talking without any real experience.

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A friend was an escort for a while and she’s one of the most loving and caring people I know. I would trust her with everything, especially relationship advice.

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It can be fine. That doesn’t make them the “most qualified to teach sex ed”

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A woman who has sex for work would be very concerned about doing so safely. She is likely going to know about STDs and pregnancies as well as how to prevent them and how to deal with them if/when they come up.

She has experience in setting expectations, limits, and breaking off sex when she needs to.

She is going to have more experience with the human body, what’s “normal” physically, what warning signs are for various STDs.

She’ll likely be the least judgemental person for someone to talk to when it comes to sex and sexual relationships.

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Yeah, you’re talking out of your ass.

You need to actually research this topic instead of believing conservative talking points about the sex work industry.

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No you’re right. They don’t have extremely high rates of being sexually assau…

45 to 75 percent.

And this isn’t exactly a conservative source. Turns out the people playing for sex aren’t always the greatest people.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://swopusa.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/FACT-SHEET-Sexual-Assault-Prevalence-Among-Sex-Workers-USA.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwipyp-E1-yCAxWDlGoFHdfiDGIQFnoECBQQAQ&usg=AOvVaw06F00deZ5se8DU56cXaMyP

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16 points

Wouldn’t this kind of be like drug addicts telling children why drugs are bad?

Very few ways to better learn why something is right than far reaching consequences for doing it wrong.

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I don’t think we should teach that sex is wrong or bad, but yeah, she probably is experienced in what can go wrong and can talk from more experience than most of us.

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More like a drug dealer telling children why drugs are bad. (The role analogous to the drug addict would be the prostitute’s client.)

And, frankly, that’s not a bad idea either.

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16 points

Sex-as-industry is a deeply fucked up field that is almost guaranteed to build resentment and unhealthy associations with sex.

It’s literally not. In fact, some people who do sex work develop an almost therapeutic relationship with their clients, since the intimate environment promotes emotional sharing.

It’s literally one of the oldest professions of human society, and the stigma against it is entirely rooted in puritanical religious attitudes, which have been proven to be antithetical to healthy relationships, if not actively promoting abuse.

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10 points

To be fair, throughout history most marriage have been completely transactional.

The idea that a marriage should be based on romantic love is a new concept that would have been seen as unhealthy throughout most of human history

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5 points

There are love stories and sonats that are thousands of years old.

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7 points

Victim blaming. Wow.

They are experts in the industry and it’s not a justification. If it was your justification I’ll just let your next doctor know that you don’t want a lecture by an expert in the field but someone else entirely. I’ll just grab today’s horoscope. Holdup.

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186 points

Legalize prostitution and get rid of the stigma. It being illegal only hurts the women (mostly) in the long run. With legalization you could get rid of a lot of abuse and make it easy for these women to come forward if there is abuse. I think it would also make underage trafficking harder if prostitution was legalized.

I think we’re a long way from that, but one can hope for society.

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Hurting women is the point. By keeping some people’s primary form of income illegal they can be superexploited, just like undocumented migrant workers. It’s no coincidence that they’re also similarly at risk of kidnapping, trafficking, and violence. No work insurance, no safety net, no legal protection, no rights, no dignity, and if you get caught you are the one that gets punished instead of the people who exploit you.

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48 points

Conservatives need prostitution to be illegal. If anybody with some cash could go out and get laid then the right would quickly run out of incels to recruit.

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41 points

They need sex to be shameful all around. The more shame they can induce, the more leverage and control they have over everyone.

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8 points

Also, sometimes prostitution SAVES marriages. Sometimes the wife likes her husband, but she just doesn’t want to have sex. Or vice versa.

https://medium.com/eros-ethics/prostitutes-saved-my-marriage-c2ffc07d59b

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4 points

One of the best arguments for legalizing it.

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I don’t think hurting women is the point, more like a bonus or icing on the cake.

The point is to maintain a facade that our culture is ‘above’ such kind of behavior, even though everyone with a brain knows it’s not.

Same kind of sentiment that allows Christians/Catholics to have sex out of wedlock but still think they’re ‘holier than’ everyone else who does the same.

It’s all just hypocrisy and insecurity.

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Our culture is very much in favor of hurting women, so it’s six of one and half a dozen of the other. The harm to women is far too consistent to be a coincidence.

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3 points

“Convicted prostitute” is not the condemnation the article-writer thinks it is… Work is work!

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We do not need to legalize it to get rid of the stigma. Spreading and calling out stories like this for the dreadful, inhumane, closeminded bullshit that they are is how we get rid of the stigma.

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23 points

You think it’s possible for something to be a crime and not be stigmatized?

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I think removing the stigma is the best pathway towards decriminalization.

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Cheating on taxes is a crime, but in certain circles it’s nit stigmatized.

The same goes for ignoring the speed limit in other circles.

A desperate mother shoplifting to feed her child would probably get compassion from many.

On a side note, it is also possible for something to be a crime and not be punished. It is a way for a society to condemn something, but acknowledge that is just necessary under certain conditions.

(Some countries use this trick for contentious topics like abortion and, yes, prostitution.)

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Yes; smoking weed. Jaywalking. Drinking during prohibition.

A crime is what the law says will be punished, but the law isn’t moral.

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5 points

But, why? This feels about as effective of a strategy as ‘thoughts and prayers’…

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-29 points

Would brothels be allowed to participate in job placement programs at career day in high schools ?

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Do porn directors? No? Stupid Question? Yes.

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-12 points

Yes, special schools, graduate programs, AP classes…

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No but these absurd questions show up faster and faster as the government legitimizes sex work.

And so do trafficked immigrants who are kidnapped and coerced into the sex work industry by people threatening to kill their family while using Facebook Live standing in front of that family’s home back in their country of birth.

That shit has been happening for a decade. And it is why lots of the liberal western European countries have curtailed their red light districts.

There is no way to save those people without destroying privacy.

https://reddthat.com/post/8968028 - “European Parliament rejects mass scanning of private messages”

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4 points

Probably not as that would be advertising sex work within an area frequented by minors. I bet it would fall under the same laws as consuming or selling pornography close to schools and parks.

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3 points

You act like that’s absurd, yet we allow the military to come and recruit children. That’s far worse.

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The only problem that I have with legalizing prostitution is that it requires the government enact sane protections and oversight for them. I do not trust the US government to ever do anything for real people, so I believe it would just lead to different abuses.

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11 points

Well, we should eliminate every government agency then.

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Including courts, social security and meat inspectors. Welcome to anarchy.

/s, since on internet it is not clear.

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Very well you don’t trust the government. Can you detail to me how you use this in real life? For example do you conduct your own water testing and inspect the watersheds around waste water treatment plants? Do you take your electronics and subject them to FCC type testing for safety and non-interference? Do you perform your own bacteria culture tests on all food prior to eating?

The government is far from perfect but it can in general regulate industry when the legislative branch allows it too.

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6 points

Ok, I’m curious. What kind of abuse are you imagining that could possibly be worse than the status quo?

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Well in the past, some governmental members have been known to grab em by the pussy

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3 points

To cut back on the hyperbole that you’re receiving for your comment: Even badly managed oversight would be better than none at all.

Amazon warehouse workers are being exploited brutally in a system that needs fixing, but there’s much less trafficking and violent coercion involved.

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I can trust them to abuse their power, and by keeping it illegal you give them the power to abuse.

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166 points

Sex work is work. This woman did nothing wrong. Fuck the puritans who fired her.

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Fuck the puritans who fired her.

Ironically, there’s a chance that she may have been doing just that.

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16 points

My money’s on a petulant john outing her after recognizing her from their kids school.

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You joke, but I knew a woman who danced at a strip club to get extra money for herself and school supplies who got fired after a student’s dad saw her dancing

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Sex work is work.

Do you believe that every sort of work in the world should be 100% legal? All of it?

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16 points

Only when they’re consenting adults doing no harm to anyone.

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0 points

Well yes, that’s a different issue. It should be legalized and regulated as currently there are almost no legal protections for workers.

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14 points

Obviously she should have joined the military and shot brown kids instead.

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The military is a cancer. My country glorifies what should be an absolute last resort as something to be proud of.

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That’s not how logic or reasoning works. They said sex work is work, they said literally nothing else about any other kind of work.

Come on dude, that’s like the most boring fallacy ever.

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What’s the point of saying sex work is work, then? Obviously it is, but just saying something is work doesn’t somehow validate it.

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Your logical fallacy is both juvenile and tired.

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In what way?

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Regardless of the fact that there’s no way many of her students will be mature enough to handle this information without being disruptive, there’s a difference between supporting life decisions and accepting them.

Like the difference between fatphobia and supporting healthy lifestyles, right? One is cruelty, the other is not supporting bad habits.

Same with prostitution, it’s one thing to not oppress sex workers, it’s another to tell kids to become sex workers. Hopefully she’s not doing that but is normalizing the profession really what you want around teenagers?

No parent wants to find out their kid started turning tricks because Ms Smith seemed cool.

Especially when her “Ways to Spot A Dangerous John” course wasn’t approved by the principal.

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Why would you assume she was “promoting sex work” instead just teaching kids “normal” sex ed? That’s a very strong assumption, and the article says nothing about that. Do you have an alternative information source that says otherwise?

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Her existence as a teacher is tacit approval of her side gig by the school. Her existence in the classroom promotes it as a viable career.

There’s always a fine line to tread by institutions in charge of minors between trusting your kids to be mature enough to handle things like this and knowing how vulnerable they are to making poorly thought out decisions.

I wouldn’t want a prostitute teaching classes on sex ed, and I wouldn’t want a drug dealer teaching chemistry, and just to be clear, I use drugs and have used prostitutes.

I just didn’t do it and won’t support it around people whose brains are literally unfinished.

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70 points

Active shooter drills? Super chill.

Woman had sex? Mind blown and values changed forever!

I wish you could see how you sound.

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Some people view sex as something intrinsically beyond the purely transactional, and for those people it’s immoral to treat sexual intercourse as a commodity. I’m somewhat undecided, but it does seem a bit like the final frontier of neoliberalism.

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Especially when her “Ways to Spot A Dangerous John” course wasn’t approved by the principal.

It’s always a sign that you have a great argument when you straight up make up facts.

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3 points

Seriously. This is a human being we’re talking about, who’s now lost her livelihood, and will possibly need to resort to prostitution again to make a living because of it.

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You’re acting like she introduced herself to her students as a former prostitute. The kids never would have known if these asshole adults didn’t dig into her past like it mattered.

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It is massively naive to think that zero of the people who are students right now will ever do sex work at some point in the future. Some of them definitely will. Even if you don’t agree that sex work is valid and honorable work (which you clearly don’t agree with) there’s no way to stop people from doing it despite how vilified or illegal it is in any society.

Given that reality, a course teaching people how to avoid the dangerous elements of a job that some of those people will eventually do, sounds like a great course. Having a sex worker who knows WTF she’s talking about teach it? That’s fucking amazing.

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I paid for my teaching degree by working as a prostitute. Prostitutes aren’t extra horny degenerates or something, they’re just folks trying to survive. I’d probably be a better teacher if I could still do it, because I could cut back the hours at my second job 🤷‍♂️

Seems like we hold teachers to higher standards than CEOs and politicians, for less money than a Walmart GM makes…

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More like hold women to stricter standards than men.

Men can and are celebrated for being absolute sluts. Hell, its actively encouraged in most spaces.

Woman sleeps with more than 2 people and an inordinate amount of people will look down upon her and say all kinds of horrific things.

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It’s almost like we should be paying you more… But… Nahhh, MuH tAxEs!!! Wahhhh!

Sorry we all collectively suck so much :(

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18 points

Thank you for your service!

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94 points

Doesn’t this ironically make her more qualified?

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That makes her completely unironically more qualified.

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11 points

I’m glad I wasn’t the only one that thought that.

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9 points

That was my first thought. If anything over qualified!

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Maybe that is why she was fired “you are too qualified for this job”

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