I’m at a shitty point in my life where I’m just close enough to rock bottom to smell it but far enough that I still have something to lose.
One thing I still have control over is what I’m going to have for lunch. I decided on chicken legs. I’m going to smoke them with Applewood and score the legs so they can hold bbq sauce. I’m going to the store soon but don’t have a favorite sauce, and I’m looking for recommendations. What bbq sauce is best to cook onto the chicken legs?
Kikkoman makes a teriyaki sauce with garlic and green onions and it is my new favorite sauce after Aldi’s parmesan garlic. If you’re dead set on bbq, you can’t go wrong with a sweet Baby Ray sauce.
Are you me?
The green onion teriyaki sauce is fantastic. I mix it into ground turkey and make burgers on the grill.
On the sauce tip we’ve gravitated to SBR. It’s dark and smokey like bulls eye but sweeter.
For chicken I really like grill mates sweet and smokey rub
Not sure if anyone cares to know but i decided to go with stubbs bbq sauce. First i put on a dry rub of Pappys dry rub and cooked to 160 internal. Then i followed up with stubbs bbq sauce and finished at 170 degrees internal.
I didn’t get down with the apple jim beam so i decided to do shots of Makers Mark cask bourbon. Might have a white claw and long Island iced tea later. Catch me on my plummet to rock bottom over on !cocktails.lemmyworld or occasionally! Cocktail.MidwestSocial
Unfortunately I think I might just have to go back to therapy because even bbqing doesn’t cheer me up anymore.
Edit: the chicken has clashing flavors only fixed by getting blind drunk. Don’t mix Pappys dry rub and stubbs bbq suace.
You may think no one cares but you’d be surprised how many people are happy about this update.
Also never really heard of stubbs before 0_0
Came here to say to go with Stubb’s, but the jalapeno one. It’s SOOO good!! Dude. So good…
Also, therapy is amazing, and you should totally return. It’s a step to you getting better. Feeling this way sucks balls, but the world isn’t as bad as it seems, and sometimes, it takes a therapist to help you see that. If doing the things you love doesn’t cheer you up, even a bit, you may benefit from a psychiatrist that can prescribe an antidepressant and work with you on your recovery. Saved my best friend’s life. Like everything, there are bad ones and good ones and great ones (psychiatrists and antidepressants), but keep fighting so you can find one that will help you. Good luck, my dude. Hang in there, and know that an internet stranger is rooting hard for you!
Thanks homie. I actually quit therapy the last time because my issues were caused by me being broke, alone, and working long hours. My therapist said that my money would be better put towards my bills than therapy. That no amount of coping skills would make me not poor and alone.
Well I got a better job, made friends, and and I’m lightyears ahead of where I used to be, but still i find myself thinking about ending it. Personally I think my past depression kinda fried my brain and I’m permanently broken and probably need meds to be halfass happy.
I don’t have enough enough money to move into my own place, and even though that’s my goal, that’s what I’d define as success, I’m not sure that’d make me happy. I know myself and I know if i lived by myself I’d be lonely and probably overdependant on my work friends. Also I’ve been trying to date but only halfass sending likes on the apps and just a little bit of flirting with my coworkers. In fact there’s this one coworker I have that’s i am just illogically attracted to. Only problem is she’s out of my league in looks, economical standing, has degrees and she’s also older. She’s so different from me though, in almost every way. I thought i leaned right politically but jeez she really showed me what it’s like to be conservative in Asia.
Idk i think that’s just the bourbon talking though. I think about her more than i should, that’s for sure. I’d give her everything if she asked even though I know it’d be wrong.
Anyway I’m going to try to sign up for BetterHelp. Honestly I’ll have to lie because they reject certain people but i just can’t afford anything else rn.
I appreciate you friend. Hope to see you around lemmy soon on a more happy post.
I don’t have enough enough money to move into my own place, and even though that’s my goal, that’s what I’d define as success, I’m not sure that’d make me happy
It wont. You’d be lonely then.
That said. What keeps you centered? What keeps you from burning out?
just a little bit of flirting with my coworkers
Dont do that. Its messy. Dont shit where you eat or put off the vibes. You gotta separate it out.
I’ll asl again, What keeps you centered? What keeps you from burning out?
gonna be honest. Sounds like a shit therapist anyway. Theres tons of em, high on education low on experience or worse, more fucked up and got into it trying to fix themselves. Id bet my left nut betterhelp is chock full of em too, but it wont hurt to look, id still say keep it local if you can. If you are at that point, keep looking though. A decent one that clicks can do wonders.
Personally, i find what helps me is
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A good sleep routine. Not drunk passed out good sleep, but solid 8 hours. I take some meds that help that arent habit forming and can be stopped at any time.
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Exercise. Even just walking and podcasts. It helps clear your mind and the heartrate.
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Some un-work-related hobby that I can get frustration out with. You dont even have to be good. Musical instruments, working on shit/fixing shit, exploring/hiking etc etc. Basically anything and it can always shift around. Just something to do in downtime that engages that part of your brain.
NGL, 2 and 3 can be hard. I often have to push through the “fuck this, whats the point” or “dont wanna be up doing this shit right now” parts at the beginning, but 9/10 its worth it. Once i stopped chasing women and just focused on 3 things start coming naturally. You wont even need to “flirt” its where the “just be yourself” comes from.
And before you say “ya ya, you dont know me”. I went from living in my car in college/young adult hood to making solid money with a family. Its doable. The depression never goes away, its like addiction. But you gotta learn how to deal with it and keep it in check. A good therapist can help you find that. If they are just driving you to meds or something, ditch them unless you are like full on legit bi-polar or something (then you gotta be on meds, it is what it is)
One thing I learned, is that, most of the time, someone is only out of your league if you believe they are. I don’t know you (beyond our little conversation here) or her (at all), but it sounds like you have a lot to offer. And, no, not giving her everything, but that part shows me that you’re emotionally available, or, at the very least, willing to be. Although, I don’t know if I would recommend dating or pursuing a coworker, as it can lead to some very unpleasant situations.
Another thing I’ve learned, happiness and success are not actually linked to one another. I know several well-off to bumtasticlly rich people who, I think, everyone would categorize as super successful, and they are some of the most unhappy people. I also know rich people who are happy, and poor people who are happy, and poor people who are unhappy. My point is that money and success won’t make you happy.
Money makes life easier sometimes, but good friends (emphasis on the good), I think, add more happiness than a ton of money.
I think the BetterHelp thing is a wonderful place to start, even if you have to bend the truth a bit to get in. You deserve happiness.
Believe in yourself, and don’t be afraid to be happy–that’s one of the hardest things to do after a stint (no matter how long or short) of depression. Tell yourself every single day that you deserve to be happy and you are going to be happy today. Literally, write it on a stickynote on the mirror “I deserve to be happy, and I will be happy today” and read it out loud (even as a whisper) every morning. Maybe add a phone reminder to remind you of this fact throughout the day.
I’d skip the sauce. Legs are, to me, too fatty. They do much better with a. Rub and keeps the skin nice and tasty.
I always end up going back to Sweet Baby Ray’s. Every once in awhile I’ll try something fancier but I always end up going back.
Seems like you could use a kick start for something different. Let me suggest Alabama White Sauce. Tangy, a little heat, and some lip sweat.
Alabama White BBQ Sauce: 1 cup mayonnaise
1/4 cup apple cider vinegar
1 tablespoon prepared horseradish
1 teaspoon Dijon mustard
1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1 teaspoon cayenne pepper
Salt
I’ve never heard of this, but now I want to try it on the spatchcocked chicken I’m grilling tonight. How important is the horseradish, and can it be substituted since it’s the only thing I don’t normally buy?
Ground white pepper should do the trick if you have some. It’s 99% heat and 1% pepper flavor so it would be a good stand in for horseradish. My brain first went to ground ginger but it won’t really be a good sub for horseradish. Though it may taste good given the other ingredients. If you don’t have white pepper, I’d just up the cayenne. It doesn’t have that nostril burning quality to it but it’ll be spicy nonetheless
Took your advice, with a twist…replaced the horseradish with half a teaspoon of white pepper and half a teaspoon of hot mustard powder to try to give it a different spiciness to it. The initial mix is creamy and tangy, but I’m sure it’ll defuse nicely once it has a chance to sit. Can’t wait to get this on the grill…
I’m wheezing at the amount of existential dread in your question about BBQ sauces. Sorry man, life may be shitty right now but at least you’ve got a good sense of humor.
