I think the implication is that they come from the plastic bottle.

1. Get out of this relationship.

2. Most of us have been around some kind of illegal or unlawful behaviour we wouldn’t report to the police. Anything to do with child sex abuse isn’t one of those behaviours. The only alternative to reporting him, or giving him a strictly timed opportunity to report himself that I can immediately think of, is if there is some sort of working ‘treatment’ that I am not aware of, that this person signs up for.

I am not a psychiatrist, but I imagine that somebody can become conditioned to respond to one or another type of porn and that sometimes this conditioning can be reversed. I also imagine there are people that look at certain images who it is better for everybody if they get treatment and fix themselves rather than be criminalised.

Edit - I am showing my age with how I describe this, but there are cartoons on my ‘all’ lemmy feed which are of females who have women’s bodies, but basically very young faces. (You all know them. I know I sound like a grandparent.) My point is, in terms of conditioning these could easily be a ‘gateway’ to more problematic then illegal material that millions of young people must be subject to as a matter of course. I can see there could be lots of people somewhere along that pathway that need to stop what they are doing, and change, but shouldn’t necessarily be criminalised.

Either way, get out of this relationship. Forget trying to fix them or any of that stuff. You can’t just leave a potential future abuser out there without doing something, but cut your losses and move on.

The cost to public services harms everyone. Unskilled rural labour has absolutely been hammered by immigration. ('they do the jobs British people won’t do! (Actually we don’t want anybody doing that work for that pay.)

I have no idea why you specify London. I only used the ‘not far off a London a decade’ as an illustration that every reasonable person will agree shows that the level of immigration is unsustainable. Please don’t make me waste my time having to respond to silly comments.

I don’t believe Nigel Farage for one second.

There is absolutely no doubt that immigration has battered poor, former working class people in the UK. From perfectly decent people of Eastern European origin taking the role of scab labour, undermining pay and conditions, leading to the misery of zero hours contracts, to difficulty getting any unskilled work, to the ‘benefits’ system and healthcare being absolutely hammered.

This simply isn’t sustainable.

The coming climate refugee crisis will make this look like a picnic. The line is going to be drawn, it is only a matter of when. We have missed all of the chances to minimise the impact of climate change, and help developing world countries achieve a demographic transition to a low birth rate future, without exploiting their fossil fuel reserves. It is too late.

Net migration to June 2024: 728,000. https://migrationobservatory.ox.ac.uk/resources/briefings/long-term-international-migration-flows-to-and-from-the-uk/

Multiply that by ten gives you 7.28 million - nearly the number of people in London. This is primary school maths. You have wasted my time once, I will not have it wasted again.

And for the record, I am believing Oxford University, the link I provided, not Nigel Farage. Who are you believing? (This is a rhetorical question, I am not interested in an answer.)

I know that people want to feel good about themselves, and they also want a high consumption lifestyle (that is most contributing now to the future climate change refugee crisis). Political liberalism covers the hard fist of neo-liberal economics with a soft and fuzzy veneer of socially liberal policy. Neo-liberals don’t want to feel racist while consuming an amount that destroys others. Unfortunately for many people in countries like the UK, neo-liberalism’s sell by date is passing. The result in our case is the rise of Reform, Trump, and other far right parties across Europe.

You all just assume that is what I want. In fact I want the opposite.

You are currently incapable of dealing, or unwilling to deal with reality. This inability or unwillingness is contributing directly the Reform’s rise to power. This need to feel good about yourself while not only failing to be adult enough to deal with reality, while at the same time insulting and making incorrect assumptions about me is genuinely pathetic. You are an embarrassment. Most won’t be able to learn so the rise of the far right it is very likely to be. Well done.

I am aware of this, however, the reality on the ground is exactly as I described.

Nobody is going to fix capitalism in the time frame available, so deal with the world as it is, not as any of us would like it to be.

This is simple practical advice to help individuals dealing with their current problems. I’m not suggesting the nhs is ok or anything:

Speak to your GP and ask to be referred to a provider under the ‘Right To Choose’ scheme. You might be unlucky again, but I know for certain that people in another area of the country with extremely poor healthcare got assessed (via various forms and an online assessment - so local availability of services might not be a problem) in around about a year.

If you are one of the lucky people who haven’t had their lives decimated by more austerity, more benefits cuts, interspersed by bouts of meaningless ‘essential’ work (such as stacking shelves) on a zero hours contract, good for you. You can have the luxury of taking that attitude, and feel good about yourself while you do so.

But, genuinely with the best will of the world, when you are looking at not far off a London a decade, immigration is simply not sustainable. Ignoring this reality pushes Reform towards power.

EU acolytes love conflating the EU with Europe.

The average Reform voter’s unhappiness isn’t a matter of ‘scapegoating an other’ over a media construct.

The consequences of the electorate refusing to accept this will only cause Reform’s voter base will grow.

Spending time reading, and arguing, with idiots online is a complete waste of time and energy.

Why am I doing it at the moment? Laid up with a bad back. Literally can’t do anything else.