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limitedduck

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Social skills, as the name implies, are meant to be trained, maintained, and expanded over a lifetime so don’t discount yourself because you feel like you’re too old or have tried and failed for too long. Have you considered seeking behavioral therapy? Perhaps you’re not picking up on the myriad non-verbal social cues that could help you better inform your conversations. Behavioral therapy can help identify where you’re lacking and give you the opportunity to practice skills and receive feedback from a professional.

I sincerely wish you the best of luck.

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You don’t need to give explicit details of your coworkers’ lives, but from your writing it really seemed to me that you were more interested in mechanically optimizing conversation. This isn’t necessarily a bad perspective, but people already do that organically by understanding each other more and learning their history. The route of good conversation follows logically from there through empathy.

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You’re descriptions kind of make your coworkers like NPCs. If you want to have better conversations you should probably get to know them better as people. That can allow you to understand the why of their particulars and eventually guide your conversations more organically.

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Apologies, I misread your comment and though you said protonvpn was untrustworthy. I’m not a VPN user so I’m not up to date with the rep of any of them, but I am a proton mail user so I was worried about the technical integrity of one of their products

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As far as I understand it, proton is about the last VPN option you can trust with port forwarding

Could you explain this part please? What makes them untrustworthy?

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Fantastic, thanks for this. Any reason you didn’t go to 17?

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Respect to her for coming out of that role with a clear perspective. The whiplash to Little Women sounds really rough. Such good performances from her in both too.

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