Dogs are so loving and in my case have always been obedient, but the first two years they behave like a dinosaur on meth. And then cats are so calm but they just ignore me except for when they want food.
Do you try to play with your cats? If you don’t try to need any of their needs other than food, water, and litter, why would they care about you beyond that? I have 3 cats and a rescue kitten I’m fostering, and all 4 of them seek me and my wife out for attention every single day. Play with your cats and respect their boundaries, and they will come to you for their emotional needs as well.
I have two cats and one of them is motivated exclusively by food and the opportunity to rip cardboard boxes apart and spread to the contents over the floor. He’s not interested in anything else.
The other one is perfectly friendly.
Sometimes you just have to have the right kind of cat.
Oh man, the first dog I ever got for myself was a rescue at around 2 years old so we didn’t get much of a puppy phase. I was thinking “I remember my parents’ dogs chewing things up for years before they settled down, I guess it just seemed that way because I was young.”
Then we got a six month old rescue and holy shit, he’s a menace. A very cute and sweet one, luckily for him, but also smart, stubborn, and playful, which is dangerous combo. Thankfully he’s improved a lot over the past year or so and we’ve learned how to not give him attention when he’s being bad. It’s really satisfying to see him learn and grow and start to chill out, but by God I don’t know if I’ll ever get another puppy. Still love him to bits, though. Great napping buddy.