I get suggestions online like do my hair, makeup, etc but as a first time girl I really don’t know where to even start, so I end up doing nothing and looking like a hag and im tired of being treated like crap
“it got upvotes so I guess it’s true” ? Honey, if this weren’t so painful and personal you’d know exactly how ridiculous that is. The idiocy of the person who insulted you is matched only by their sliminess. They’re a slug, and deserve to be squashed.
Moving on to practical suggestions: if you can, get yourself to a lash bar. Don’t go crazy, choose a reasonable length, and let an expert stick them on, individual lashes that last for weeks if you’re gentle washing your face. While you wait, look around at all the cis women and remember they too are doing this to meet conventional gender norms for women. So conventional in fact that it’s one of the first ways little kids make their drawing a girl: add eyelashes.
You have good skin, good hair (follow others’ suggestions for making the most of it) and a lovely mouth. Your nose is a little large but a really nice shape, and your cheeks are pretty. Your eyebrows are fine and won’t overbalance your eyes if you get your lashes done. If you can’t, you can use mascara to bring out your own lashes even if you don’t wear any other makeup.
