From a practical sense, ActivityPub may be the obvious choice as it gives easier interop with the largest federated platforms.
But what else? There are existing platforms built on these protocols, such as movim for xmpp, and another for matrix I forget.
From a technical standpoint, are there any major pros and cons?
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And my point is that the your complaints are not related to the protocol, but the applications using it.
Not only that, we are talking about different layers of the OSI model. XMPP should be compared with HTTP, not ActivityPub. There is absolutely nothing stopping someone from implementing the ActivityStreams vocabulary on XMPP.
