Itâs okay, I forgot to mark it as Transmasc and Transphobia. Without that thereâs no way anyone else couldâve known.
I never intended to have that message, was just trying to share a situation which was uncomfortable and invalidating for me due to someone else assuming my gender (thinking I am AMAB transfem when Iâm AFAB and transmasc).
I donât know if as you said binary identities and expectations of trans people have backfired as you said, I do know that people who follow gender stereotypes have had a tendency sort of force them onto others. It happens a lot to femboys and people say they are an egg or transfem. Which isnât great on its own but in my case Iâm a femboy and transmasc so itâs worse.
Itâs hard but I think that having such rigid expectations of presentation isnât helping. Like, so what if I was AMAB and looked and dressed the way I am, so what. Why would that make me a girl or egg? That doesnât seem helpful, and at least for an AMAB femboy it wouldnât be exactly harmful, itâs not always obvious that they are. Iâve met many enbies who had similar experiences with invalidation from gender stereotypes and it sucks.
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