This is not my personal opinion, I know Gen Z men who voted for Harris. But the voter demographics really speak for themselves, and maybe now people will look at the radicalization of young men as a serious (but solvable) issue.
If you want things to change, try having some empathy. Maybe you will get empathy for your problems in return.
Funny a man has said this twice this week. Women have higher EQ than men in general - how do you think they developed this?
Extending empathy to men is not what helps men feel empathy, though. Thatâs not how empathy is developed. If it was, movie actors and kings etc who have empathy extended to them constantly, would be the most empathetic people on the planet. Yet they are the least empathetic.
The thing that gets men to feel empathy, is the man feeling empathy. Itâs like a mental weight - you have to choose to lift it. I canât make you do that by rolemodeling. You have to actually take time and do the work. Actually sit down and think and perspective take without projecting or objectifying. Just radical acceptance. You have to do that work. Your comment asking women to once again bear your emotional burden of empathy is silly. We canât. Itâs a skill you gotta develop. And the sooner you do it instead of thinking itâs womenâs work (which is why you just asked us women to be empathetic - our assumed role), the sooner the world is less shit.
And only then can you be truly caring, empathetic, or a feminist - by examining your own actions as a man. Itâs great to allow men to have a sense of community outside of toxic masculinity, but this isnât how men develop empathy or Feminism and thatâs weird to phrase it like that,as if itâs valid for men to punish women by removing rights, voting for Trump, removing empathy, and not being prosocial. In fact, thatâs quite controlling and abusive.
I once saw a gif on Reddit of a little girl being forcibly kissed by a little boy (both about 6), and she shoved him off and he looked sad. The entire thousands of comments focused on the little boyâs first rejection. No one even noticed it was the little girlâs first sexual assault. She even wiped the kiss off, reminiscent of victims cleaning themselves after assaults.
When I pointed this out, people were angry. How dare I suggest that little boy is a monster. But I wasnât. I was entirely focused on the little girlâs experience and I wasnât advocating for anything relating to the boy. In fact, I think an appropriate âpunishmentâ would be to explain to him to not touch people without asking etc. And thatâs it. I just wanted to see her experience and make sure she was okay. Her situation is more important and critical in this moment than the little boyâs. But these men heard âsexual assault,â and instead of empathizing with the victim, they empathized with the assaulter, so much so they started defending him from a nonexistent attack. Do you not see the clear problem here? Do you see the issue?
But men were so unable to extend empathy to a girl, to a woman, that they literally couldnât absorb this information or perspective take as her. It was impossible for them to imagine what she felt like. This was like 3 years ago. It was astonishing. No, men do NOT empathize with women. Men empathize with themselves as an idealized version of who they would be as a woman - thatâs projection by definition and is entirely how they feel entitled to control women and objectify them.