Dunno how I’d have gotten home from school or to soccer practice if I needed an adult, ffs I was staying alone overnight and cooking dinner for myself by 5th grade. How do you acquire independence and skills with someone hovering all the fucking time?
we have infantalized children all the way through high school. no more open campuses, nothing. we live in a world where an 18 year old high school senior has to ask to use the restroom during the day, but could go to her night job as a porn star.
the main issue is parents suing school districts over any little thing, requiring them now to lock everyone down or else
Nah the real issue is that people will cave in to those helicopter parents making everyone else deal with whatever insanity they force onto their children’s
I remember when I was maybe 14, 2001 or so, and my mom forgot to pick me up from wrestling practice after school.
We lived about 6 miles outside of town, and wrestling is a winter sport, so it was well dark.
I walked home along the side of the highway (in all black because that’s what I had that day…) after waiting well over an hour and calling several times (no cell phones). My options were to continue to sit in the glass entryway indefinitely or just leave and go home. It took me 3 hours, and when I walked in my parents were shocked that they forgot… not that I made it home safely or that I felt feelings… they were shocked at themselves that they forgot about me. (I wasn’t at that point)
I mean hell when I was 5-7 I was walking home from school daily, going around suburb town on my bike, and one time around age 6 I got lost for several hours (only a few streets from home, but so windy and confusing I was just lost…) it ended in trauma and an ER visit, but did not actually cause my parents to restrict my movement, when it absolutely should have. It was normal routine stuff back then.
I’m into parents caring more now, but man if someone had arrested my mother for allowing me freedom I’d… have felt really bad for causing it… that’s also intensely traumatic.
You don’t.
Source: raised by a single parent who yelled and chased me out of the kitchen anytime I tried asking questions of what he was doing.
Now 41, and have NO CLUE how to cook.
at 41 its now your job to train yourself, if you care to. if that is your excuse on a blind date, its a red flag.
Pssshhhhh, if you think lack of cooking is going to affect my dating life, don’t worry. I’ve yet to find the type of woman who’s personality type would mesh well with mine.
So, I can’t remember the last time I had a date, but I do remember always being disappointed. The VAST majority of women look down on you if you tell them that you’ll never have a drivers liscense (me, not her), that you don’t forsee yourself traveling ever, that you don’t like music, and the whole concept of marriage seems like a financial scam from start until either death or divorce.
If I were to date someone long term, I’d need them to be my speed by nature. Them being my speed has to be something that is within their personality, not me trying to get them to slow down.
My idea of a fun Friday night is to stay in, avoid the bars, and maybe watch a dvd. Most women want to go out, go to clubs, or go on a road trip somewhere. I don’t even want to leave my recliner. Although if I was with someone I’d switch to the couch.
But that person doesn’t exist.
Similar experience growing up here.
I taught myself every single adult skill in my early 20s. I couldn’t have done it without the internet.
I’m a great cook though. I’ll figure out how to wash clothes without ruining them next.
That sucks.
If you want to try learning, start with some pasta. Put water on the stove, boil it, add salt and pasta, stir, drain when the box says (don’t cook it too long or it’ll suck), put whatever you want on it. You can start by just pouring a jar of sauce on top and upgrade to something tougher when you’re more comfortable with it.