You don’t.
Source: raised by a single parent who yelled and chased me out of the kitchen anytime I tried asking questions of what he was doing.
Now 41, and have NO CLUE how to cook.
at 41 its now your job to train yourself, if you care to. if that is your excuse on a blind date, its a red flag.
Pssshhhhh, if you think lack of cooking is going to affect my dating life, don’t worry. I’ve yet to find the type of woman who’s personality type would mesh well with mine.
So, I can’t remember the last time I had a date, but I do remember always being disappointed. The VAST majority of women look down on you if you tell them that you’ll never have a drivers liscense (me, not her), that you don’t forsee yourself traveling ever, that you don’t like music, and the whole concept of marriage seems like a financial scam from start until either death or divorce.
If I were to date someone long term, I’d need them to be my speed by nature. Them being my speed has to be something that is within their personality, not me trying to get them to slow down.
My idea of a fun Friday night is to stay in, avoid the bars, and maybe watch a dvd. Most women want to go out, go to clubs, or go on a road trip somewhere. I don’t even want to leave my recliner. Although if I was with someone I’d switch to the couch.
But that person doesn’t exist.
From one single guy to another…jeez, man.
The VAST majority of women look down on you if you tell them that you’ll never have a drivers liscense (me, not her),
Go live in a city??? Most do not give a shit.
that you don’t forsee yourself traveling ever, that you don’t like music, and the whole concept of marriage seems like a financial scam from start until either death or divorce.
Wow, no wonder they ran. You start off by telling them the things you don’t like?
And I can’t tell if you think it’s a scam because marriage costs more (it’s not) or you’re implying future partners will be leeches (major red flag)
My idea of a fun Friday night is to stay in, avoid the bars, and maybe watch a dvd. Most women want to go out, go to clubs, or go on a road trip somewhere.
Let me stop you right there, bud - this is the line that made me comment. You can’t pull the “most women want” card when you’re so clearly out of touch. MOST women don’t want any one thing. They are not a monolith.
What you enjoy doing is not as unique as you think it is. I mean that as a positive - not an insult.
But that person doesn’t exist.
Do you really, honestly, genuinely, no-foolin believe that men have the monopoly on wanting a “boring” life? Is it so unfathomable that a woman would prefer chill Friday evenings?
Your problem (in your attitude, not your relationship status) is that you’re an introvert trying to find another introvert. Your dream girl is at home on Friday night, too, not meeting anyone either.
I totally agree that it’s really hard for introverts to link up because we’re all on our own little bubbles. We’re not going to big social events every weekend and we’re less likely to pursue possible interests. And to add to that, there’s fewer introverts in general which slims down the dating pool a lot. You do have to work harder to find “the one” but your requirements don’t slim it down by THAT much.
I mean none of this disparagingly but you are wrong about the existence of the partner you’re describing so please, from one single guy to another, lose the defeatist attitude.
aktually what they want is to feel safe and comfortable with someone who understands and appreciates them. if you wanna be a home skillet thats wonderful. but yes lack of cooking definitely affects your dating potential, and this is something within your power to do something about. but really you shouldnt learn for dating points. you should learn for you. survival skill, hobby, passion, pleasure, achievement get.
That sucks.
If you want to try learning, start with some pasta. Put water on the stove, boil it, add salt and pasta, stir, drain when the box says (don’t cook it too long or it’ll suck), put whatever you want on it. You can start by just pouring a jar of sauce on top and upgrade to something tougher when you’re more comfortable with it.
Similar experience growing up here.
I taught myself every single adult skill in my early 20s. I couldn’t have done it without the internet.
I’m a great cook though. I’ll figure out how to wash clothes without ruining them next.