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Your overthinking is what makes you offended.

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And which minority group do you belong to that makes you an expert on their issues?

Alternate reply: oh no my feewings you win

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Being in a minority doesn’t make one an expert on anything… ?

I studied linguistics. What I learned is that words never carry meaning on themselves.

I’m not invalidating your feelings. You immediatly thought I intended to offend you (or to “win” against you)? No, it’s the opposite. I intended to help you be less offended for no reason. Natural languages are always weird and overthinking about the exact words that people say is pointless. What’s important is the intention behind these words. There’s no “masculine language” because words never carry meaning themselves, it’s you decide to have victim mentality. A woman can say “you guys” and not intend to be sexist, and a sexist person can speak in the least “masculine” language and be hurtful.

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So like, just because you ‘studied’ linguistics you think that makes you an expert on how language should always be used or that people should not feel a certain way about language just because you say so?

That’s not exactly a compelling argument.

Language is always going to carry certain meanings for some folks and we do a disservice to people by ignoring that, we all have our own personal lexicons/semantic meanings to a degree and that will likely never change, we do best by understanding this and working together to understand and accept when certain language can be hurtful and thus find ways of talking that do work for each other.

I feel that’s a better way of being than talking down to someone like you just did and telling them that how they feel about it doesn’t matter and they should just get with the program, which is never going to work.

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