For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.

They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.

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I’m just glad I’m not the only one who views dude as androgynous.

I thought I was one of the few.

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Dude and cunt applies to all genders.

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And DINGUS.

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I find it androgynous and will use it for anyone, but if anyone told me they were uncomfortable with me referring to them that way, I would stop, as with anything. It’s simply decent to refer to people as they prefer.

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Contextually gendered

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I find these always interesting to read in the following sentence: ‘I fucked a bunch of dudes’.

Do you also believe that this sentence would work for you? (Assuming you are a heterosexual)

Because I always thought I was in the ‘Dude is androgynous’ camp, but after considering that sentence: I don’t think so anymore

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Conflation due to context?

I think sexual activity adds implied gender relationships that shift how ‘dude’ is interpreted. While ‘dude’ can feel androgynous in casual contexts, in a phrase like ‘fucked a bunch of dudes,’ the sexual framing amplifies its masculine connotations. This shows how cultural norms around sexuality and gender can override attempts at neutrality.

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Most of the women I’ve fucked have been dudes.

A few weren’t.

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It’s male-leaning, although it gets used androgynously.

If someone personally didn’t want to be called dude, I’d avoid it. Otherwise it’s not worth freaking out over.

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