And apparently, also when you think that ‘They’ is a perfectly serviceable gender-neutral singular pronoun, but are willing to use other pronouns if asked to.
EDIT: Other removable offenses on Blahaj now include questioning mod/admin decisions and quoting the modlog as a reason why you’re leaving.
Or Ada is below the already-low bar of FlyingSquid’s moderation, which is pretty damn low.
Oof, and there we go. “Ada is worse than the (perhaps second) most universally depised mod” from you says it all, and I’m happy we reached this conclusion.
To sum up and end it: I don’t believe you are a transphobe, as others have unfortunately claimed.
But you do have an inappropriate sense of entitlement to an instance owned by a trans woman.
And, when that trans women made a decision about how to deal with harrassment on her instance, using mod action and suppression of bigoted behavior from all sides rather than allowing bigotry and misgendering, you responded with a full-force rebuke across communities against her that she did not draw the line for her community exactly where you did.
I hope your time away from blahaj is good for you. Go and talk to trans people. Learn that most of them are so overwhelmed by harassment that they would rather have trolls banned for trolling than endlessly bullied for their gender expression in their spaces.
You centered yourself in a space that is not yours. That’s your issue. Now it’s your responsibility to get over it.
But you do have an inappropriate sense of entitlement to an instance owned by a trans woman.
Entitlement is when you leave, I guess.
Let’s go over the timeline, shall we?
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Ada makes decision I do not agree with.
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I sadpost and express my discontent with it in the same comment I express an intent to leave, neither of which are on the meta post in which the decision was announced, nor in either was Ada involved as a conversant. In fact, in the course of the sadpost, I say I understand the motivations, it’s just not a place for me.
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Ada removes several of those comments for dubious reasons.
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I bitch about that on a comm made for bitching about mods.
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I get accused of being a transphobe for not believing in dragons on said comm made for bitching about mods.
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I am accused of feeling entitled to Blahaj.
The Tumblr defensive swarm mentality was shite there and it’s shite here, and if I’d realized it was how Blahaj was going to react to people, I never would’ve posted there in the first place.
Learn to take criticism, or get off the net.
Please, @spujb@lemmy.cafe outline to me how that timeline is indicative of entitlement.
- Ada makes decision I do not agree with.
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I sadpost and express my discontent
Right there. You tell a trans woman how to run her space. Thats entitlement.
Now I of course don’t know why the comments were removed, perhaps the entitlement, or more to do with the fact that they encouraged further bad behavior in an already hostile situation.
But you came into a space that isn’t for you, and told trans people how to handle a situation that doesn’t affect you. Sorry for using emotional language, but your pathetic “sadpost” is a slap in the face to the daily onslaught of harassment trans people face. Then you didn’t stop. Your subsequent days-long crashout proves to me that Ada made the right choice.
“Learn to take criticism or get off the net instance” yourself. My best wishes for your time away.
Right there. You tell a trans woman how to run her space. Thats entitlement.
… “This isn’t for me, so I’m going to leave, even though I understand and don’t denigrate the basic reasoning.”
“Stop trying to tell her how to run her instance! This is entitlement!”
Fucking what.
I specifically mentioned in that very point that you cut off, in case you forgot how to read, that Ada was not in that conversation or thread, nor did I expect her to be.
But you came into a space that isn’t for you, and told trans people how to handle a situation that doesn’t affect you.
Literally didn’t tell anyone how to handle the situation in 196. Gave no advice. Made no demands. Jesus Christ.
Your subsequent days-long crashout proves to me that Ada made the right choice.
I love that a crashout is when someone doesn’t roll over and commit to a struggle session when accused of being transphobic for not acknowledging dragons as real.
“Learn to take criticism or get off the net instance” yourself. My best wishes for your time away.
Fuck’s sake, you’ve taken “I don’t agree with this decision so I’m literally leaving, wish you the best” as some kind of demand for submission.
Tumblr behavior. Utterly deranged.
Initially I thought I’d miss Blahaj, but seeing these reactions from Blahaj commenters and defenders here? I feel more like I’ve dodged a bullet now.
