Trans comes from to transgress. Not transition. Non binary people without a doubt transgress their agab. It’s not some big conspiracy, you just don’t get it and are choosing not to.
This is honestly the first time I’ve heard that interpretation of being trans. But if being trans is just about transgressing, then that’s very culturally-bound. Like, in my little rural village being gay is very transgressive and certainly not considered in line with my assigned at birth gender. Am I trans now?
In some cultures, yes, many GNC gay people would be considered part of a ‘third gender’, and this was also the case in a lot of the West before modern separatist movements came into the picture. There’s still an overlap today between he/him lesbians, stone butch, drag kings, and transmasc communities, just like there are overlaps between effeminate she/her gays, drag queens, and transfemme communities.
Also, non-binary people can physically transition through various surgeries and hormones, in addition to social transitioning. It’s often very difficult because much of western society doesn’t recognize their existence, so NB people are often forced to choose between the ‘socially acceptable gender’ of either male or female to live as legally, which can in turn lead to major dysphoria.
