I’m thin, but I have only once cared how much food another person orders or eats. If someone eats 4 times what I would, I would be impressed. The one time I was surprised by someone’s overeating was a morbidly obese woman that was easy over 500 lbs. She was stuck living at home and people would care for her. She took up a 3-person couch to eat lunch. She had a mountain of fried chicken wings, and she was going at them like something I had never seen before. It wasn’t enjoyment. She ate them desperately and would cry. She had a bucket next to her in which she vomited several times throughout the meal. The poor woman wasn’t not eating just because it tasted good. She was meeting a deep personal need that had gotten terribly out of control. Even then, I didn’t think to judge and shame her like she was bad. I felt confused but bad for her. She was obviously unwell. Still, I doubt you’re eating like that.

I think that if someone is judging you for your intake amount, that’s their problem. I have my own things that others like to judge and shame. If someone does, then I know they’re an asshole and I stay away from them. I am not going to concern myself with the opinions of someone whose values I dislike. I’m going to concern myself with me and people I like. Here’s a quote from Game of Thrones that I embrace:

Tyrion: Let me give you some advice bastard. Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.