I have literally never heard “ableist” in real life.
We used the word “retard” (the R word in case it gets censored on your instance) a ton as kids to insult each other (e.g. for doing poorly at something), and I’ve heard my kids say it as well. I personally don’t see the word nearly as problematic as the n word, because I’ve literally never heard it used to insult someone with an actual mental disability (have heard “mental retardation” [censor?] to describe such a condition though), it’s only used to tease friends.
I crack down on it, but mostly because we have a few people with such conditions in our community and I’d hate for them to be offended at something my kids say off hand. I don’t see it as “ableist” or whatever, and most don’t seem to associate it with people’s actual mental development, and instead I hear “slow,” which is much less censored and IMO more offensive since it sounds like you’re trying to hide a more ugly word in the hope that they won’t understand (and I bet they do). I crack down on any potential slurs, but it wasn’t that long ago that “idiot” meant much the same as “retard” (again, potential censored r word) does now, so banning its use just retards (“slows”, if censored) that process.
I think “the left” (not sure who to point at here, but they largely seem leftist) have gone too far down the “inclusive language” rabbit hole here and often do harm than good (e.g. “latinx” is offensive because it came from English speakers, not the Latino community). Creating special terms just highlights differences instead of focusing on similarities, which IMO causes more problems than it solves. But I also don’t want to offend anyone, so I try to enforce clean language and stick to technical terms (and not academic terms that dance around the issue) for things when I’m unsure of the acceptable parlance. I’ll ask as well, e.g. I use “black” since that’s what my black friends prefer. The “right” takes things too far the other direction, so I stick somewhere in the middle and try to ask when unsure.
You actually have made me think if I heard it in school or on reddit. Outside of newspapers, the internet, and universities this sort of rhetoric is pretty rare, I agree. But I’m in academia so I see it all the time.
We’re on the same page. My school used those a lot. I also agree that inclusive language and maybe even add identity politics has gone so far that it’s missed the point. Who actually gets offended at those? Middle school had people using a lot of n-words, retards, or everything was gay, maybe even fg. For the most part I think they ought to be not used. But it makes me think of the South Park episode where the Harley Davidson bike drivers come into town and all the kids are calling them fgs for how they’re acting and they get in trouble but they make the point they in no way are trying to be offensive to homosexuals. It’s weird that many of these words except for the n-word are taken as blanket unacceptable words even when that’s not their use case. Like calling wrestling gay was not an attack on lgbt people. But even typing this out I fear someone may be offended, which I do not want!
Latinx is probably the best example of how ridiculous it is. Seems Latine is much more reasonable and already used in SA.
I feel like leftists outside of moderate democrats may not have the rhetoric as much.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on how you handle it with your children. Mine is too young but I do need to consider this.
It’s weird that many of these words except for the n-word are taken as blanket unacceptable words even when that’s not their use case.
Exactly. We just substitute other words, for example, “beta” means pretty much the same thing that “gay” and “fag” used to mean as kids.
But even typing this out I fear someone may be offended, which I do not want!
And that’s the crux of the problem. Most of those being offended aren’t even targeted by those terms. Look at the PC term we used in the 90s and 00s (and maybe earlier idk) for black people, “African American,” which was actually more offensive since it implied that they’re immigrants or whatever despite having deeper American roots than most Americans.
The right takes this too far the other direction. But like I like to say, the truth (or best solution, in this case) lies somewhere in the middle. In this case, I think it’s closer to the left, but the mainstream left takes it way too far.
When in doubt, ask. If you can’t ask, use technical terms, but really try to just ask.
Seems Latine is much more reasonable and already used in SA.
Exactly. But nobody bothered to ask, they just injected their own opinions.
And that’s the crux of the problem. Most of those being offended aren’t even targeted by those terms. Look at the PC term we used in the 90s and 00s (and maybe earlier idk) for black people, “African American,” which was actually more offensive since it implied that they’re immigrants or whatever despite having deeper American roots than most Americans.
I think the answer is typically younger teens-30s white people who get offended on others behalf. You’ve framed this in an interesting way. IDEK why I’ve been led to think that way. I know I don’t want to think like the right does. And I disagree with how radically anti-logic academia can be but I do try to speak carefully within that setting.
It’s almost as if white/cis/straight people are taking the potential suffering of non-whites and making it their own. Or at least living in a white savior fantasy.