They are all so nice that I feel I have to be nice too.
Oh, no. I have had a much different experience. I think Lemmy users are just different kinds of assholes and don’t realize it.
I am looking at you lemmy user that thinks people should just start killing people to settle the score.
Downvote from me. This whole question and thread seems clearly to be about you processing some very particular encounters, and, frankly, it doesn’t seem to be proceeding in a particularly healthy fashion.
If you wanted to discuss a problematic culture here, that’s cool, provide links if examples and a breakdown and a thesis as to what’s going on … ie actual content … and we can discuss and read. A question with a hidden agenda and unspecific angsty critiques in the comments … isn’t valuable, for neither us nor you.