You have a false consciousness of your own that is at this moment blocking you from understanding what mean by “patriarchy”.
Side note that’s why I loathe that word. The concept, roughly Butler forwards, makes perfect sense but the term is atrocious because it right-out invites misunderstanding, as in, if you take a dictionary and look up the components you get nowhere close to the “normative force wafting through overall society” thing but plain “rule of fathers”, if even that, plenty of people misunderstand it as “rule of men”. I know it’s due to history and not deliberate obscurantism but it still sucks. Something like “the spirit of oppression” comes way closer to the modern definition, including the animist metaphysics it invokes.