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Totally agree. I think half the problem is that English is a stupid language at times. I have no problem with gender neutral terms but the plural nature of “they” makes my 54 yo brain hurt. I have the same issue with the word data. “The data are” sounds awkward to me.

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“the data are” also sounded odd to me when I first heard it. After practice it became fine. Now I see it as a green flag that someone may be scientifically literate.

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i think its mostly an issue with not being used to it. “you” is both singular and plural as well and we manage fine. “we” is plural but it does not distinguish between inclusive and exclusive “we”. arguably those cases are more rarely relevant, and honestly id prefer if all of them had solutions, but i think we can handle it once we are used to it, or solutions will develop.

btw not trying to be antagonistic here, just sharing my thoughts :3

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No I totally agree. This really wasn’t a thing for my generation so it just feels weird. And I’m talking about the language aspect only. I’m totally cool with people being who they are.

I just wish there were better alternatives to convey the same meaning without these overloaded English terms. English is just an amalgamation of weird grammar and vocabulary from at least three major languages plus I’m old and change is hard.

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You use singular they every single day or at most every single week and you have for your entire life and so did all of your English speaking ancestors including middle English.

'how far out is the pizza guy’s ‘they’re 15 minutes out’

‘my coworker was a pain in the ass today’ ‘what they’d do this time?’

‘i think my doctor is famous’ ‘oh what’s their name?’

They was singular before it was plural, and it’s singular use is still one of the most common pronouns in English.

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Every example you provided was extremely unambiguous and without anything that might require distinction between singular and plural. Often language isn’t that simple. For example, “Fion had finally joined the party and they were happy about it.” Who does “they” refer to in that context? Yes, you can write/speak your way around it, but that adds extra difficulty that isn’t suited for casual speaking/writing. That is why people (who aren’t transphobes) don’t like it as a pronoun and would rather have a new word.

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In your sentence they unambiguously refers to fion. It’s really not that hard for a fluent speaker. I’m not a native and this shit is simple, it’s unwritten but innately known like the order of adjectives when multiple are present.

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