Players in Baldur’s Gate 3 will no longer be able to permanently destroy dead characters by yeeting them into a chasm, as a recent update has changed this mechanic.
I missed both her and Gale in my first playthrough and while Gale never appeared anywhere else, Lae’zel does show up a bit later. Albeit kind of randomly.
There’s a conversation that pretty much plays out as if you had her the entire time, then afterwards you have the whole “hey wait you were on the ship too” thing and she can join you.
I never found her at the start, but randomly found her body in a cave somewhere near the end of act 2 I think it was. Never had the chance to talk to her after leaving the ship in the beginning.
I guess that happens if you also miss the second possible encounter.
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For me Lae’zel was in the north with the Voss and the other Githyanki near the mountain pass entrance past the inn. The place with the cutscene where the dragon destroys the bridge. It didn’t really make any sense for her to be there and the dialogue plays out as if she is in your party so it is pretty odd. I can see how you could miss it if you went to Act 2 through Grymforge and never went through the mountain pass, or came back to it later and time already passed.