First, I am a late diagnosis, so if some of my terminology is offensive please tell me, assimilation is hard.
On the the point, I have been noticing a pattern, I am in a number of allistic or mixed groups, online or in meetup type spaces. I am trying to expand my social circle, and I have nearly always been alone.
Is it typical amongst nurotypical people to respond to a question with need for information questions and then, when they realize that (and I don’t know which) they’re not interested or they can’t help they just move on, not explain that they can’t help or aren’t interested?
No problem, you’re welcome ☺️.
I have been struggling with people in general myself… as in, I’m not really considered “normal” in most societies. Eccentric? Yes, most probably, but in general, just weird. Some find that relaxing and me interesting, but to most people I’m just a weirdo. That’s fine, I’ve come to accept that, it’s not really a problem at this point. I used to think there was something wrong with me, for a very long time… and maybe there is, IDK, but I’ve given up on trying to fit in or finding a “cure” for my weirdness. I just do what I feel (in my heart) is right and live with the consiquences 🤷. Sure, I do put on breaks and masks sometimes, in critical situations, but when things are more casual, I’m just muself. Whoever wants to make converstaion or just get to know me, fine. If they find my stand points and opininons off putting, that’s fine as well, we’re just different, that’s all ☺️. You go your way, me my way and that’s all there is to it 🤷 😂.
You have a great outlook, I spent so much time “keeping up appearances” and it damn near killed me. I swang the other way and it damn near did the same thing, I guess now I am looking for my middle ground. Just enough of an ass to scare off most of the hateful bitter people, just kind enough to not be a doormat. Anything that is left is just the shine on the coin.
Yes, exactly. It’s like I’m lobotomized of some part of the brain that is responsible for applying some of societiy’s “norms and standards”. Like I see nothing wrong with asking some questions that are considered not polite to ask. Or my reasoning is considered somewhat risky in some situations. It’s just who I am 🤷. I can’t be someone else. I’ve tried to be, I really have, I ended up being depressed and seriously rethinking my whole life and how I’ve lived it thus far, that all of the happy and joufull moments I’ve had might have been the wrong thing to do… that’s no way to live IMHO. If you’re not hurting anyone with what you do (at least not intentionally and when you realze you do, you stop), I really can’t see nothing wrong with the way I am… or how anyone else is for that matter. As i said, you do you, I’ll do me and that’s all there is to it. I don’t have to like you and you don’t have to like me.
If you’re not hurting anyone with what you do (at least not intentionally and when you realze you do, you stop),
I am sure you have heard this, and it has been misattributed so many times I am not sure who to credit but: “The right to swing your fist ends at my nose.”
That was always the struggle for me, that part of my brain was never there I had to learn to fake having it so I could “fit in” and not get beat up, or worse (but there was still worse) but that act is exhausting. I don’t want to have to act anymore, at all, but if I don’t not even my mom wants anything to do with me.
