congratulations! you have discovered that sexuality is not as simple as “luv me boiz” and/or “luv me girlz” :D
i get extremely repulsed if i was attracted to someone but find out they were born with a penis. Does that make me transphobic?
No. These are males (gender) presenting as feminine (presentation). Often this presentation breaks - will they have a female voice? Attitude and personality?
And if you were attracted to them… Yes, you’re attracted to a man*
But being gay or bisexual or any sexuality is a spectrum. You can be bisexual, if you choose to use that label, and attracted almost entirely to women, and then the rare man. Or be attracted to all genders but still only choose to have sex with certain genders.
I just came across someone who said they were attracted to a picture of a bear (hair man). And someone said “hey, you’re not straight” and they replied: “Im only attracted to this man, here, online, and I’m not having sex with anyone. So I’d rather claim to be straight.”
In this case I think sexuality is a process. Maybe they will end up accepting their attraction and acting on it, maybe they won’t. And either fork in the road would lead to a great life.
Is that like the consensus among scholars on the internet? Cause I have been thinking about it the same way as that other person: I am attracted to feminine traits, so I am straight.
Not that I mind at all if I’m bi or not, I am just trying to find myself so to speak. The thing for me is that if I just think of myself as bi, it feels like the easy answer. Like using bi as an umbrella term or like that meme “that’s right in goes in the square hole”. Like if you don’t fit anywhere else you fall back to being bi? Feels like a bit of a cop out answer to me.
But then maybe I really am bi. This thing is hard man.
