3 points
I’ve seen this too; the problem is people who use this legitimate problems to shame someone who’s doing nothing wrong.
4 points
For sure. Like a lot of ‘social stuff’, context matters a lot.
Groups are different too; a table full of engaged RP-heavy characters can work, but put one of those players in a more quiet group, and suddenly, they can talk over everyone and be a ‘problem player’ (or vice versa; quiet player an a very social group).