That’s not how you fix your country. Your way of thinking will only produce more animosity and extreme ideologies.
how do I meet in the middle with the people openly calling for me to be rounded up and executed by the government, then? what’s the strategy for winning them over in the marketplace of ideas and why hasn’t it worked yet?
It’s called “education”. It takes a few decades to get some results though. Unfortunately nobody tried it yet.
You don’t. The current generation and the generation under them cannot be “won over”. What is required is 3 or 4 generations of reeducation.
And you can’t suddenly change to this new education either. It needs to be done slowly, covertly, with a lot of patience and over a long time. You will have to be the bad guy who’s secretly “brainwashing the children.”
So long as no organised body has the balls to do this the only other option is for America to face the same kind of utter destruction 2 world wars have done to Europe so that the country can be rebuilt from the ground up. Literally.