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It’s not so strange is it? It’s not like most people feel comfortable around trans people. It took a very long time before even black people were treated normally.

I don’t actually like the term phobia either. People are not “irrationally afraid” . They just prefer hanging out with people they are used to.

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Someone recently killed another person because they thought they were trans (they weren’t) I would definitely call that irrationally afraid. Maaaaybe you could put it up as an extreme case but shit like that does happen. Trans people are afraid for their lives my dude.

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I understand. Isn’t that even more of a reason to connect to people here?

Should we just not talk to them? Leave them alone so they don’t get scared by our comments?

I would rather see them as part of the community like anyone else.

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No.

Transphobia, homophobia, racism, misogyny, and other hate-driven viewpoints do not thrive in darkness and get disinfected by sunlight. They thrive by being promoted and normalized when people have the opportunity to be hateful in public.

These are not intellectually assumed positions. They’re not something that can be defeated by debate. The publishing of the Protocols of the Elders of Zion does not contribute to the elimination of anti-semitism - it fosters it. It’s not like someone publishes Protocols and Jews cry out “At last we can debate whether or not we’re engaged in a plot to destroy civilization!” Trust me on that one.

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I don’t actually like the term phobia either. People are not “irrationally afraid” . They just prefer hanging out with people they are used to.

Weird how nobody ever gets this up in arms over terms like hydrophobia 🤔

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Why? Also seems perfectly natural to me.

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13 points

Exhibit A your honour

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No idea what you even mean with that. Did you expect a response with “oh that’s strange, I’m sure everyone is really comfortable around trans people these days”.

They just aren’t.

I think instead of being hostile against people who admit they are not comfortable, maybe try to help and be a friend instead so people can start to understand that there is nothing to fear?

Trans people started one of the first mastadon instances and one of the first Lemmy instances as well. I think that’s really cool, and I don’t get why you would drop a oneliner with some kind of witty response when you can actually communicate with people here.

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Hah, I love it.

It’s natural that you’re hostile to me, because you’re uncomfortable, but me, I need to suck it up and be friends with you, despite you making me uncomfortable, because as the person you’re “uncomfortable” with, the responsibility is all mine. You just sit there awaiting passive education, and feel guilt free dishing out your “discomfort” until then.

When I said I miss the transphobia free days of lemmy, that’s what I was talking about. Because this conversation we’re having right now wasn’t a thing even a few months ago.

Trans people started one of the first […] Lemmy instances as well.

Yes, I’m one of those trans people…

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