I am in the interview process for a job in a research group and it is going well so far. The only issue is that I was attracted to the person that interviewed me and I am going to be working with if I get hired.
My girlfriend is the most important person in the world for me so I don’t want to risk catching feelings for someone else, but I also need to find a job if I am to rent a place to finally live with her.
What would you do in my case? Would you stop the interview process and try to find a job elsewhere or would you go for it and trust that you would do the right thing?
This question might sound deranged to you, but I have the full autism/ADHD/OCD combo so I am very out of touch with how the average person thinks.
I would. Attractive people are everywhere, it is unavoidable. The solution isn’t to avoid the job, but rather to respect that person, your significant other, and your own values enough to maintain appropriate boundaries. Don’t flirt and don’t respond to flirtatious behavior if the other person initiates. Stay professional and tactful.
