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Well for one, I wish I could tell people no when they ask me to social events without being interpreted as an asshole

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“I’d love to, but unfortunately I am busy tonight.”

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Still kinda rude. You have to at least imply you’ll try to swing by for a short time, as a bare minimum.

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Honestly, in a situation like this, I don’t care. If I’m busy, I’m busy. And if politely telling them that is seen as rude, it’s not me who’s the problem.

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I don’t know anyone who doesn’t understand the concept of “I’m busy tonight.” Nor have I ever heard of someone thinking it’s rude to not always be available.

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But if you have no intention to then you’re just lying and now you’re actually being an asshole instead of just being thought to be one

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I once had a coworker tell me he wasn’t going to a company event because he “was working on saying no to things.” I thought that was really cool. Not sure how well it would work though for, say, saying no to a friend’s invite 🤷‍♂️

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