Thinking about this because of a greentext I saw earlier complaining about OF models.

It feels like a lot of the stigma surrounding sex work in the modern day (that doesn’t just boil down to misogyny/gender norms/religion) is based on the fact that selling intimate aspects of one’s self places a set value on something that many see as sacred; something that shouldn’t have monetary value.

Not to say anything about the economic validity of a society without currency, but I think that, hypothetically, if that were to exist, sex work would be less stigmatized since this would no longer be a factor. Those engaged in sex work would be more likely to be seen as doing it because it’s something they are good at/enjoy, and less because it’s an “easy” way to make money, as some think. It would also eliminate the fear of placing set value on social, non sex-work related intimacy (not that those fears were well-founded to begin with).

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There’s evidence for this.

Trans priestesses attended temples in Mesopotamia and were very highly regarded.

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I wanted to disagree with this, but I actually think you make a rather compelling argument.

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The stigma with sex work is that you’re having sex with someone because you want paid, and otherwise wouldn’t be having sex with that person.

If there was no need for money or an exchange for goods and you wanted to have sex with a bunch of different people, we already have that in today’s society. It’s a tinder user.

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It’s also related to sex being a “special” or “sacred” act. If it was just something that could be potentially dangerous by resulting in STDs or unwanted pregnancy, like say, driving your car can be potentially dangerous by resulting in accidents and death, then no stigma would exist. But people give it this special character beyond any other human activities, and put it on a pedestal essentially.

Without that pedestal, a delivery driver delivering to someone they don’t like, for the money, is just … their job. Sex being a job is just … a job a person can have. Why make it special?

People basically want to put the pussy on a pedestal, and you don’t really need to be doing that. It doesn’t actually make any sense, it’s just tradition for some folks. Who then want other people to follow their tradition too.

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What?

A prostitute that isn’t paid…

Isn’t really a prostitute are they?

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There can be other forms of compensation in currencyless societies, so not necessarily. There’s also just the personal fulfillment aspect, which is supposed to be the main thing motivating people to work in this hypothetical.

Edit: Other forms of compensation would re-introduce ethical questions, so that’s probably a bad suggestion. It would have to be a post-scarcity society, as others have pointed out.

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There’s also just the personal fulfillment aspect,

Yeah, that’s the reason lots of people have sex for no money…

Like, if there’s no money changing hands, it’s not a free prostitute, it’s just someone willing to have sex with you

It doesn’t make any sense to still call them a prostitute.

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It does if they formally define it as their career path and treat it as such.

Sex work is more than just having sex with people for fun. There’s layers, specializations, and skill to it. Not all of it is strictly physical. Someone might want to just go on a date after their spouse passed away, for instance. Handling that situation requires a lot of emotional maturity and your skill in those situations improves with experience.

Edit: better examples would be sex surrogacy or porn creation.

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It seems like you mean a post-scarcity society rather than a currencyless one. Sex work done to earn a living is still done to earn a living if it’s in a society that distributes goods and services in another way. I’d hope that the sex worker in question is getting personal fulfilment from it, but unless their basic needs are covered regardless then it seems foolishly optimistic to assume that it’s the case

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Post-scarcity is more accurate for what I was imagining, yes.

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So instead of being a ‘whore’ for money, Jane can be a ‘whore’ for a meal? Or a whore for a new dining set?

Unless we are in a post scarcity world there will be ‘currency’ even if it’s not ‘money’.

Anything that made sex transactional would just be more of the same old shit we see today.

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True, it would have to be post-scarcity to be ethical then.

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Interesting thought. I think most issues stem from bigot assholes who consume the produce but are not allowed to due to their background/upbringing/social “norms”. And those within their normative set not willing to provide, because of the same background/upbringing/social context.

Also, w/o currency there will be other forms of compensation, like a certain amount of work time, or… (p.e.) a handful of apples… due for a certain set of services.

Additionally there is always a percentage of plain idiots who would socially not be able to ascertain this kind of services w/o paying, and these seem to need to demonize the servicer to feel better about themselves.

Sry if I busted this comment, brain is fried after work.

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a lot of the stigma surrounding sex work in the modern day (that doesn’t just boil down to misogyny/gender norms/religion) is based on the fact that selling intimate aspects of one’s self places a set value on something that many see as sacred

The fact that most of the times the stigma only clings to the person selling and not the person buying makes me think that this is actually a negligible part of the stigma.

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Talk about toxic culture …

How we treat sex worker and other types of people who are less privileged is what the society really is.

Also, how Catholic clergy abuse got handled.

I know people need their copes but this behavior has consequences.

Everybody so alpha to chimp out a like poor abused young woman who is forced into prostitution.

But the alphas tuck their dicks, do some vague lip service about Catholic church and then hack to spazzing about these whores.

This is what a Clown society looks like folks!

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There are absolutely individuals who shame those who buy these things (think those who make fun of OF subscribers), but overall I would say you’re right.

I think a lot of that is the fact that sex workers are more public-facing than their clients, making them targets for stigma.

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