Edit: alt-text: Reddit post in r/TrueOffMyChest
Title: my friend just transitioned but I found out she’s naming herself Mildred. I wanna be supportive but, fucking Mildred?
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I say this as a trans woman. I will support, defend and love you no matter what sis.
But…
Fucking Mildred!?
Oh sure, I bet your Great Grandma is a lovely person and I have nothing against her or her name.
But, it is very much a GREAT GRANDMA sort of name that is super out of date. I would be exactly as critical as a parent naming their child Mildred.
This generational. I’ve seen a number of names I thought of as grandma names come back into fashion. People who are young enough not to have experienced grandmas with those names pick them. Gertrude is a grandma name to me, BTW, not a great-grandma name. I actually had a grandma named Gertrude. Welcome to old. (Edit: my brain glitched from Mildred to Gertrude there. Looking forward to Alzheimers.)
As a trans woman, fuck yeah Mildred. Take that awful name and make it your own. Sure you could’ve been a Megan or a Maria or even a McKenzie, but anyone could pull those off. You chose Mildred to flex on us plebs
So many of us have a ridiculous name. I kept mine to my middle name, but so many don’t, so I can just fully embrace someone deciding she’s talking great grandma’s name and damn the consequences
I had some friends that saved me from…Edith ugh.
Then i did a juke and went with Eleanore lol
Deep into that darkness peering, long I stood there wondering, fearing,
Doubting, dreaming dreams no mortal ever dared to dream before;
But the silence was unbroken, and the stillness gave no token,
And the only word there spoken was the whispered word, “Lenore?”
This I whispered, and an echo murmured back the word, “Lenore!”—
Merely this and nothing more.
cishet dude here so i dunno how much what I’m about to say matters but I’ve always liked the name Eleanor(e) because The Practice is my favorite procedural series and in that show Eleanor was a badass woman with strong convictions and morals.
she also was in one of the coolest scenes in tv imo, having a very heated argument entirely in sign language. here’s an unfortunately terrible recording of it: https://youtu.be/CwV9dHHQj-8
anyway i think Eleanore is a cool name, but more than that, once people associate it with you that’s what they will think about when they hear the name, the kind of person you are. not the other way around.
Enough talk about trans rights, it’s time to talk about trans wrongs /s
I wanna be supportive but, fucking Mildred?
Engaging in sexual intercourse with Mildred is perfectly fine as long as there is mutual consent. However, it is not required. Kind words are usually sufficient.
I don’t think I could have sex with a woman named Mildred. Just imagine hitting it from behind, and then you remember her name is Mildred. You’d go soft like a wet noodle within seconds.
Hey man, all cats are grey in the dark.
I gotta agree with the post. Millie would be a cute alternative Mildred. The name reminds me of mildew.