We are normally good at masking bc its expected of us but I am so tired of it. I’m so tired of having to pretend like I’m someone I’m not.
Then when we mess up and let our guard down or make a mistake and accidentally show people we are ND, we get dogpiled or yelled at. It sucks especially bc we sometimes don’t understand social mores, so even when we are confident that we are acting the way NTs expect us to, we can end up wrong and still get yelled at.
It’s awful bc we are never gonna create a more equitable society if we can’t have these types of conversations with NTs. We have to show them that bring ND isn’t an insult, but that’s when we get yelled at or made fun of.
Have you got a real world example that is not on the web/social media?
In my experience, the world is not run by NT folks, and if you’re being yelled at as an adult that person doing the yelling is certainly not NT.
As I’ve gotten older I have come to realise everyone is dealing with something, whether it’s a diagnosable condition or not. As an example my wife has anxiety with OCD thrown in, my daughter probably inherited both, my son has some ASD tendencies, my MIL is the biggest narcacist and a complete A-Hole, her partner is a functioning alcoholic with his own issues. Then my mum is likely got mild anxiety, as well as my little brother, older brother has anger issues as well as my father. All this is to say externally you would consider everyone I just mentioned NT, my wife is the only one that has been diagnosed with anything
Grouping people together by some arbitrary trait and thinking of them as all the same, is wrong. Someone clearly treated you poorly and they were nurotypical. They were wrong for that, but it isn’t because they don’t have ADHD. They were just assholes. Assholes are come in all shapes and sizes.
Who the fuck is yelling at you? Just dump those assholes.
People yell at and don’t accept lots of people. You don’t have to hang out with those assholes
This is my third time writing this. I just have to say, I agree with you 100%. I’ve only begun to begin to act “normal” by being treated like shit and being afraid of being myself.
I’ve even had a boss tell me to only talk about the weather. It’s grueling, dehumanizing seeing other people talk like normal, but when I do it, it’s somehow wrong.
So… you want a world run run by the neurodivergent?
I suspect you’re getting downvoted because this post reeks of self-pity.
I assume this person is a minor.
I can’t imagine a scenario where another grown adult would yell at another grown adult for being nd. People just walk away, not confront.
