Edit: I was as to negotiate with the ones organizing the meeting to schedule for another day. I may have been panicked because I stopped Prozac for a while. I’m really sorry for lashing out like that, and thank you for your understanding.
I’m trying to get my diagnosis. Due to my parents not accepting me receiving mental healthcare, I had to do everything in secret.
It made my life so much easier when I finally got Prozac. I could finally sleep. Little to no obsessions or intrusive thoughts. I also stopped having pica.
But I can’t get a diagnosis in most places without involving my parents. Until I found someone who could give me one.
Thing is, if I miss tomorrow’s appointment, I can no longer have another chance at it. The health system is clogged and all.
I had everything planned out. Told them I was going out and all. But now, I can’t, because our basement got flooded and I have to stay in order to help them.
I know this is what I get for wanting the best of two worlds: my parents’ support and getting behind their backs. But I just didn’t want to keep suffering anymore. I just want it all to stop.
Yeah. It’s a lot easier to slip out without saying anything, and apologize after if they ask, than it is to risk your appointment being missed.
If you can, just walk out. If you know they’re going to ask (after or before) have a quick, simple, and mostly true lie prepared. You’re going to grab lunch real quick since you’ve been busy all day with the basement, you are headed out to get useful stuff for the basement and do they have any ideas for anything specific, etc. Bonus points for actually also doing the thing you said you were doing.
Maybe say you need to buy a specific thing against the flooding (maybe buckets or a pump or something like that idk) and then do both your appointment and getting that thing.
If not I still wish you got look with getting back up to speed on your mental health:)
Help, then when it’s time, go for your appointment, say you’ll be back soon (give them a time if need be), then do it.
Help as much as you can stand to, but do NOT miss that appointment. Lie your ass off if you have to, but get that diagnosis, trust me. It is very much worth it, and you’ll be able to get the help you need right away as an adult.
Do. not. miss. any. appointments. pretty. much. ever. unless. you. have. covid. make. sure. that. you. have. things. lined. up. and. remember. when. they. ask. questions. answer. not. your. median. space. but. from. your. worst. case. scenario.
(That you’ve lived through and can remember - because I heard from my shrink that we tend to be modest with our assessments but that these questions are best answered as if we’re at our worst.)
Sorry that was so funkily worded, but seriously don’t miss any appointments ever to the best of your ability especially highly-important ones because you will not easily be able to obtain another down the road and missing a certain amount can blacklist you as a whole.
Precisely. Also, unless you’re up to shady shit and don’t want to leave a paper trail, don’t ever pay for your mental health services with cash, maggot. Use a rewards card for those sweet, sweet airline miles.
Hehehehe! Yeah, this person knows whatsup =)! Legit though, don’t pay for it with cash. And setup a payment plan if you need to =)!
Also I legit made my name based off a joke gag from the show Mandy. On account of wanting that one asshole on the internet to see it and be like - YO, MANDY LET’S GEEK OUT TOGETHER! But I think it might actually be too obscure because I can’t even get a damn video of the cash maggot skit to show others the essence of it =P! But it is legit from Episode 01 of Mandy =P
(This human is one of many Cash Maggots =P! It’s a faux-payday loans company.)
My first rule in life, look after yourself. You can’t help others properly if you don’t care for yourself.
If it’s a choice between pissing off my parents because I leave when they want help, and missing medical help in a crowded system? I’d go for upsetting parents, they’ll get over it.
Look after yourself, go get help. This is coming from someone (me) who has mental health issues. Your future self will thank you if you start the path of treatment sooner rather than later.
Hope you’re feeling well now. Take care!
Oh and tell them you’ve got a medical appointment, they do not need to know what kind, just say you’ve been on a waiting list for a long time.
I must specify that our culture is very very different. They think that autism is immediately linked to several cognitive deficiencies. I remember wanting to talk about the subject to my dad, and his face immediately frowned when he thought I suggested having autism. Plus when my initial doctor thought I might have some kind of neurodivergency, like ADHD, my parents immediately turned down the idea, and I haven’t heard from the doctors ever since.
I have to do medical appointments with them by my side, and if not, they must know every detail about it. Doesn’t matter if it’s private. They’ll even go as far as to share it with families and friends. Sure do love gosip.
Still, thank you a lot. I’m not sure how to express it properly, but I am thankfull that you answered.
Edit: autocorrect
Ah. Yes cultural issues can be a challenge. Sounds like you’ve got somewhat limited freedom.
Maybe there’s some other kind of commitment you can come up with? Or perhaps try to call in to the medical location you were considering to see if you can schedule something for a better time?
Hope you’re able to find help
Culture and tradition are just peer pressure from dead people. Your first and only obligation is to yourself. Just go. No words. Lie like there’s no tomorrow if you have to.
