Always give your best. That includes not being perfectionistic. And of course in relation to your energy level and skill. So keep it holistic.
You might think some things are more meaningful than others to do, so you do your best, but then not for things that seem to be less important. But instead of that think of it as developing yourself. And you are always there with you, doing it. In the long term it really pays off because you’ll improve all across the board. From spelling and vocabulary to cooking and cleaning. It’s okay to sometimes spend half an hour writing a reply to a single random person.
After all, who are you to judge what’s meaningful? You see people walking everywhere in a hurry, doing important things. But is it? And perhaps that single random person really appreciated your effort and it was meaningful in some way. And perhaps your ability to put half an hour into writing a comment pays off when you are communicating with someone at work. You just don’t really know. All you can do is focus on the things you are attracted to, and to do them well.
Some sort of journaling really helps when you feel like you have no direction. You can turn back the pages and see what path you took and even identify some ideas or values you want to implement in your life moving forwards. I recommend a notebook instead of a digital notes app.
This is a habit that I formed fairly recently 3-4 years ago I think. Initially I was writing down on smaller notepads which tend to get filled up quickly. Now I use a dotted notebook, so that I can draw something if I need to (although unruled notebooks also work)
Don’t obsess over decorating it like the bullet journal folks do on YouTube/Instagram and if you are thinking of using apps like obsidian or logseq - don’t go too far down the rabbit hole , just write down something instead.
You can have something like tasks.org for todos (organize your day) and a physical notebook to develop a vision (get some direction in your life)
Sorting things out straight away. If I need to do something I’ll do it as soon as I can. I used to put things off forever. I learnt this at work when things were so busy I either did the task that day or put it off and it never got done.
At the end of the day I write a list of what needs to be done the next day in order of importance. When I come into work the first thing I do is look at that list. Eventually it becomes second nature and you don’t need to write it down. However I still write it down for work because I can’t afford to forget. In my personal day to day I just keep it in my head.
No specific habit but I was really bad for routine stuff like getting my hair cut or going to the dentist for a checkup. i figured out that my problem was remembering (or, having the social energy when I do remember) to make these appointments.
I started just making the following appointment when I attend the current appointment. It takes all the work out of it, and I’ve been able to keep up a much more structured and healthy life since I started.
All my fellow neurodivergents who experience executive dysfunction, take note!
Exercise biking
How did I develop it ? : Noticed that I was am fat and bought an exercise bike.
Now I don’t have to catch my breath everytime in get up from a seat.
