Life tip: if you don’t already KNOW the answer is yes, don’t ask. It’s too early.
I had a girlfriend asking me like twice a week for a year- when I was going to propose and then I did and she said no. Edit I’ll add too for your consideration the fact that months earlier I had asked her what she wanted for Christmas and she said a ring, so we looked at rings and then I bought one for her and when I gave it to her for Christmas she was upset that I didn’t propose.
When they ask you like that… it’s the cue o have a conversation on the F-ing subject. What are your hopes and dreams, kids, quick wedding or elaborate… you know… discuss what the future would hold together.
Once you have had those conversations you also know what the answer to a proposal will be.
We did all of that but then her mom got her into the church again and she decided she wanted someone who went to the same church and after she said no she told me maybe if I joined her church. Her church beat two children to death trying to expel demons and the pastor had a big private jet so I couldn’t join that church. Edit: besides the church thing, she didn’t believe in evolution and wasn’t going to teach her kids that evolution was real, a big problem for me. I might delete this stuff later, I never share online
When they ask you like that…
just so we’re clear here. When you ask someone to propose to you, you’re asking them to propose to you, there’s a place and a time for doing a haha funny this is actually not linear thought processing, for example you’re in a car, i’m waiting for you to pick me up so i tell you “run me over when you see me” that would obviously be a joke.
you ask someone what their thoughts on marriage are, if you’re curious what their thoughts on marriage are, the english language isn’t hard. If you have to do it multiple times, maybe you should probably, idk, ask more forwardly.
to be clear OP is probably a bit of a dumbass, but to be clear, it’s not their fault.
To me. They are asking you to propose. If they want to have a conversation there have the fucking conversation. Don’t play games. No one can read minds.
But it doesn’t matter to me either way. I don’t date. I won’t date. I’m done with dating. And I will never get married.
LPT: Don’t give queues that can be severely misunderstood, just fucking ask what you want to know.
I feel like the jeweler should have stopped him.
The customer is always right in matters of taste. He wants an ugly ring? Jeweler should try and steer him away… but if homey is dead set, get paid in advance and make sure they sign off on the design.
Yeah, but like… Bruh, are you sure she’s as into Iron Man as you are? I know it was your first date, but she’s going to have to wear this everywhere. She’s going to show it off to her friends and family and coworkers. This bright red abomination that looks like it came in a box of cereal, that’s going to cost at a minimum $50 thousand dollars. Are. You. Sure?
She could have always asked for a different ring. This ring wasn’t what was wrong with that relationship. it is hilariously awful though.
in matters of taste
Oh my god I just felt my chest release slightly with a tension I didn’t even know was there.
I never hear the full sentence, people always just cut it off 5 words in for some reason…
Who is to say he didn’t? He probably told him this isn’t going to work out the way he thinks it will, but Delusional Man said, “Bet” and gave him a bag of money.
Also look at the amount of people just in this thread who got some lord of the rings prop or whatever and loved it - women not being a homogeneous block of feminine virtue actually have their own opinions and taste, they are to the shock of many here actually just people and are often dumb, tasteless, and obsessed by things like marvel or that one fantasy book that got popular.
Jeweller was* probably like ‘oh another client wants something ugly for their nerd wife, well at least it’s not disney ip this time…’
*yes I acknowledge this was almost certainly made by a nerd jeweler as a show piece and nor brought by oop as a wedding ring.
Sure, he made the ring as asked. But it’s conceivable to me that the customer only talked to one person about his plan, because any sane person would have tried to talk him out of it. And the jeweler could have made a different choice, and then maybe he would be making anniversary rings, or rings for her jealous friends. Instead, there’s a viral image with his stamp on it, and I just realized this is all probably fake anyway. I’m not a smart man.
I’ve got a friend who’s a jeweler and if he’s asked to engrave something where there’s a typo he won’t say a thing, he does it as is and keeps a copy of the original to show the client if they come back, it’s not his place to question them.
That sounds kind of petty to be honest. I’d just send an email or leave a voicemail and wait a day as long as I can still meet whatever deadline I had set. Everyone makes mistakes and it seems like it would be hard on everyone involved to have to do it over again.
If it’s a name, then yeah I wouldn’t question them though lol
i will never understand that stupid craze about expensive engagement rings… i engaged to my wife without a ring. It was just a very emotional situation, i was sure that i wanted to ask her… and then i just asked. No ring, no special event planned out or something… just asked her, and she said yes.
People paying cars worth of money for a ring is so unbelievable for me.
I gave my wife a ring made out of coconut. Cost me $2 and she instantly dropped it off the balcony if the resturaunt we were at.
The Thai owner of the place climbed off the balcony into the boulder field underneath and spent 20 minutes looking for it. Even after I explained that it was only a cheap coconut ring.
He said the price isn’t the point, it’s the memories!
He found it, what a legend.
“Once upon a time” an expensive engagement ring worked as a sort of bride price and was a hedge against the risk of premarital sex.
Back in ye olden times, you would pay a bride price to the parents of the bride, both symbolizing the eternal debt you owed to your wife and as a way to show you had plenty of money to spare to take care of your wife. You would then give your wife a dower, sonething they could hold onto in case you lost all your money or she became suddenly widowed. This historically was property but became rings or jewelry with expensive stones. The wife would take the dower as a sign she would no longer need to worry, and in exchange be a maiden on her wedding night. These practices were only for the wealthy, until indistrialization brought the practice to a growing middle class. Then, in the early to mid 1900s, marketing campaigns began associating the price of a ring to the love you felt for your wife, leading us to today.
Doesn’t prevent it, but gives the girl collateral if the guy breaks off the engagement afterwards.
Back when my wife and I were still dating, she found a cheap ring she loved. It was just a normal jewelry ring with her favorite stones in it, not a fancy engagement ring or anything. But she loved it so much, she told me that if I ever proposed to her, she gave me permission to steal it from her and re-present it as an engagement ring. Which I did.
I felt bad about it though. I took the ring to propose, but my plans fell through and it took me a few more days to arrange a new proposal plan. She had forgotten all about our conversation, so the whole time she was tearing the house apart, looking for her favorite ring. She loved that I “found” it and gave it back to her with a proposal.
I got my fiancee a gold cat bell instead of a ring. Granted it was a bit pricey but it has special meaning to us and it was definitely not worth cars amount of money like some people spend.
I gave my wife Nenya, a replica of Galadriel’s ring from Lord of the Rings made by WETA who are the folks that did the movie props. Silver and cubic zirconia ost $75. Mine was $14, wood and platinum. We’re 9 years in and going strong.
The one my husband gave me is Nenya without the stones. It’s just the 6 petaled flower in white gold.
i’m fine with this shit if it’s interesting, or you have the disposable income to spend on it, but outside of that i feel like things that are more immediately sentimental are more interesting.
though to be honest, i find marriage kind of cringe, i would only ever do that shit for the tax breaks lmao.
Good news! This ring also comes in fuchsia pink with piss yellow sapphires:
Holy crap, I looked at Art Masters Jewelry and eew. They are all clunky overdone nigh unwearable, some of the black ones might be good for a dramatic goth look - they look like costume jewelry but are priced like real jewelry though . So ugly.
Guy must be really poor because this looks like something that cost 20 bucks on Wish.com.
