I’m just middle aged and lost all energy for unproductive discussions. The second another poster posts something genuinely hostile, like “touch grass” kinda shit, I’m just done talking. Also if we’re six comments in and the other guy won’t even admit to being wrong to the thing he said on comment one, despite me doing twenty minutes of research to prove conclusively that he’s wrong, I don’t want to waste another second of my life on him.
I gotta have 10% of the “disengage” comments on this site.
Hot take, I think the “disengage” rule is good but I don’t like the way we do it.
Saying “disengage” sounds like your commanding someone to disengage, which comes off as a final “fuck you!” It’s basically a mod enforced way to have the last word. If we instead said “I’m disengaging” or “i want to cease this convo”, idk something that had more to a tinge of humility to it I think it could come off better.
There’s also the issue where someone will write a multi paragraph response then add disengage at the end to ger the last word in
There was a post a while ago where mods were saying not to do that but it isn’t enforced
There’s also the issue where someone will write a multi paragraph response then add disengage at the end to ger the last word in
That hasn’t been an issue for over a year. Doing that will - or at least was - grounds for a banning. I know because I’m the one that asked for the rule to be clarified so it didn’t work like that.
There was some drama with some user who kept doing it, which was the motivation for the rule change/clarification.
You know I tried something like that recently, but the people who need a disengage aren’t the ones to take a hint. It’s a command because the people who’s hobby that day is to argue with you aren’t going to respect polite boundaries.
Okay but I’ve seen as many examples of people using it as a “have the last word spell” than as a way to tell someone who’s legit been pestering you to fuck off.
I’m pretty sure spamming someone with replies after they’ve asked you to stop is against the rules anyway so you could just report them.
Can you explain the disengage rule? I think this is the first I’m hearing about it and that’s kind of weird/concerning because I feel like I should know the rules of this place.
If you want a conversation to stop, especially with a user who’s constantly replying or following you. You can respond with “Disengage.”, and the user is obliged to stop posting at you about whatever it is. The post has to be a simple ‘disengage’, rather than trying to get the last word in with “you stink and here’s five reasons why also disengage”.
Saying you want to disengage isn’t just for you, it’s also a signal to the other person that you have no interest in talking to them and they shouldn’t waste their time either, not just yours. If they respond to a “disengage” with some smug comeback, they’re just wasting their time.
If it sucks hit da bricks
At least on this site, there’s so many times its the same miserable poster being overly hostile for no reason, there’s no point in engaging
I block people all the time for being kinda annoying or unfunny or hostile to others and don’t think twice about it
It feels like Hexbear is warmer than other places on social media. But I have this habit of scrolling past long comment chains, so maybe I’m just missing it.
Does blocking prevent the other person from seeing and replying to you? Or does it just stop you from seeing them? Thanks.
Also do note, if you block a user, you will also be unable to view any replies to comments they make (but the 'xx more replies > ’ link will still show and their comments will show up towards the post comment count. It’s a glitch I believe but it’s a weird artifact that kind of reminds you of the person you blocked, and can hide legitimate comments you would like to read. (I’m relaying this from what I’ve heard, I haven’t blocked anyone)
Thanks. I guess I’d like them to not be able to reply to me, but not seeing them is pretty good too.
the same miserable poster being overly hostile
Some of them reminds me of my time working in a kitchen. You have one or two of those psychoes who get spit on the bosses or customers and they lash out at the juniors of the crew.
Absolute control freaks with a napoleonic complexe
It is reflective of the world’s opinion after Oslo. Hamas probably understood that to gain some world legitimacy, they have to play to the world opinion, militancy without gaining political legitimacy will bring them nowhere (ironically Fatah is the other way around)
But as Edward Said, Rashid Khalidi, Mouin Rabbani criticize Oslo which at that time the PA seems to act ignorant to its repercussions. Well, we are living the repercussions now.
It’s just an online forum. You don’t know them and you owe them nothing.
If you feel malice from them, disengage/block immediately.
