Most “ASMR” grosses me out TBH, I don’t like that whisper stuff and I really hate those lip-smacking sounds - to me it’s about as erotic as eating with your mouth open. Shame, since I am actually interested in the general concept.
As someone pointed out, it’s not supposed to be erotic. The tingles that it causes isn’t caused by erotic stimuli, it’s a very different kind of tingle. Which doesn’t mean some ASMR can’t be erotic, I’m not saying that. Speaking for myself, the tingles I get are mostly around my face and eyes, if that makes sense. Not my fingertips, though.
Try simpler sounds and triggers. Tapping, scratching, brushing; rain, fire, water, whale sounds, keyboard typing, etc.