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Back when I was in high school (in public school), chess caught on in a big way. Chess. It was the weirdest thing. It was a public school in a small farming town, and pre-Nerd Renaissance, so picture a stereotypical 80s or 90s school where jocks were top of the food chain–and then picture those same jocks in their letter jackets rushing to the library on their free periods to take turns playing chess. They set up tournaments and kept track of win/loss ratios and talked about chess strategies in the hallways.

So obviously something had to be done…I guess? The school started making rules and posting them around the school: one game per student per day. One game at a time in the lounge. No chess in classrooms or in the library! The chess board must be returned to the lounge supervisor between games, then signed out by the next person wanting to play–not just passed willy-nilly from one student to another! No outside chess boards allowed!

That pretty much strangled the chess fad. The jocks went back to stuffing nerds in lockers and sneaking out to smoke behind the school, and the chess boards returned to the shelf by the lounge supervisor, where they collected dust.

Problem…solved? The whole thing was pretty surreal.

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55 points

A similar thing happened in my school with a card game called Euchre. Heaven forbid the students enjoy the small amount of time between bells or in a class once their work is complete.

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17 points

Did you go to school somewhere in the Midwestern US? Everyone I know who has even heard of euchre is from there (mostly Indiana).

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10 points

Michigan, but I know what you mean.

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1 point

Euchre can be gambled on right? So at least there is some angle where it’s “undesirable”.

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42 points

Wh… Why wouldn’t they encourage this?

I mean, I know, but how dumb can they be?

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19 points

Cant have the jocks get weak and start viewing the other students as people and cohorts.

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2 points

Can’t start losing football games

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31 points

If you’re having fun and are aware of it, that’s a sin.

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Checkmate, chess players!

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11 points

I yes, we’ve got a Problem. And that starts with P and that rhymes with C and that stands for CHESS!

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6 points

Definitely didn’t expect to wander across a Music Man reference in the wild today, love it.

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5 points

Get some contraband travel chess boards with magnets, doing black market chess moves in bathroom stalls. Great job your school

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141 points

“Zero tolerance” policy on fighting. Any “active” participation resulted in automatic suspension. That part sounds fine, but active participation included things like holding up your hands in self defense or trying to push the person sitting on your chest while punching you in the face off of you.

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75 points

I really don’t understand why schools have this rule (at least in many places in the US). Are they trying to teach you to not practice self defense and just let it happen? Doesn’t sound like a great thing to teach.

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99 points

It’s easy for the administrators. No investigation, no attempt to understand what happened.

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43 points

Since the late 90s, school admins have become increasingly “police state light”; multiple vice principals with walkie-talkies, metal detectors, 3 hour after school detention, saturday detention, in-school suspension (you go sit in a room in silence for literally the entire school day), and zero tolerance. Imagine getting punched in the face and THEN being expelled for it. And I’m not even talking about “rough inner-city schools” or whatever; this shit happened in the Berkshires.

Of course, all their security theatre commands a budget increase and attempts to instill a sense of fear of the state into students.

We’re worried about school board meetings being taken over now but the administrations went full right wing fascist 30 years ago.

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14 points

Maybe its internet hokum, or maybe its real, I dont know.

by my favorite story I ever saw, that outlined how stupid the zero tolerance shit was, and how destructive it was, was a kid in the last year of highschool who moved over the weekend, and apparently a butterknife fell out of one of the boxes, and you could see if you really smashed your face up against the rear driver side window and looked really hard under the drivers seat… Which someone, apparently, did, and got the kid expelled for bringing dangerous weapons to school.

a butterknife isnt even a goddamn danger to butter. Muchless a human being. Especially when its locked in the goddamn car.

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31 points

Funnily enough it had the opposite effect at my school

“If I’m getting suspended regardless, I’m going to stop it here and now.”

Yeah they had to repaint some walls due to blood on a number of occasions. And tear carpet out.

It’s was like the fucking thunderdome the moment shit started going down at my school.

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8 points

Because bad parents. Kids who are bullies usually have parents who are bullies, and even when their kid is the instigator, they will defend their kid and bully teachers and administrators into lifting punishment. Zero tolerance means that discretion is removed and everyone is punished.

The changes in parents the last few decades is why schools are so awful.

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Looking at it from the other side, it’s actually rare that an innocent kid is beat up without context.

Usually there’s 2 kids that have a beef and have been egging each other on for days. Eventually one kid says something and the other kid snaps and makes the first move but the second kid was just as guilty.

If you only look at “who started it” the second kid gets off scot free, while the first kid gets punished. Not really fair.

"Zero tolerance " attempts to fix this by recognizing that both kids likely played a part.

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9 points

You are delusional to the highest degree. Kids in school don’t fight even, it’s one-sided 99% of the time.

The reason for this (and the rule) is bullying. Bullies fight bullied, and everyone gets suspended because “they were fighting”. Since you announced in advance that was the policy, this enables you to conveniently ignore the bullying that has taken place, and instead act as if all bullying-related fights (read: all fights pretty much) are simple fights that do not require any more attention because the issue has been dealth with with punishment.

In turn, this means that a bully who already has a bad rap and generally doesn’t care about grades or standing with school admin because both are already at rock bottom can target any one kid and make their admin standing rock bottom because it will appear as if that kid is fighting all the time and constantly suspended.

There’s no “other side”. The kid who initiated violence is the one in the wrong, even if the other one has been egging him on. “Oh but what if the egging on is one sided and the kid can’t take it anymore?” That is a symptom of your bullying reporting being garbage, not of the natural order of kids. If that kid is taking it out violently it means they’ve tried every other avenue including telling an adult and nothing has changed.

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I ran afoul of this.

Someone came up and suckerpunched the absolute fuck out of me from behind, Was someone who I never even interacted with, commented towards, or even thought about. I still think, to this day, he just wanted to look like a bad ass by hitting the biggest kid in the grade.

Because they used a crutch to get around due to a gimpy leg, and because I was over a foot taller, I was deemed the aggressor… and no amount of witnesses saying otherwise would convince the principle of my innocence. and because the office was so convinced of it, no one in my family believed me either, so no one fought against it. I had to complete a program for “violent” teens before I was allowed to return to school… a program that was little more than slave labor in the hottest not-summer-break months, where I got accused of being a (gay slur) because only (Gay slur)'s drink their drinks the way I did, apparently. Was a super happy fun time learning experience.

I totally don’t still carry the rage and bitterness about it to this day at all. Nope. not at all.

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18 points

Zero tolerance anything is just lazy and worthless. Only reason to implement is so you don’t have to think or acknowledge any nuance. Admin can just shrug their shoulders and go “Sorry nothing I can do. Zero tolerance.”

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7 points

If they are truly zero tolerance then any teacher or security guard who steps in to break up the fight should also be suspended. They participated.

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6 points

I always told my kid to fight back, and I’d have their back. More parents should be that way. Same way too many kids get beat up in HS because they were afraid to fight back.

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122 points

In 5th grade they defined every kid that can speak another language as ESL (English as a second language) even if you spoke English perfectly. Then they put all of the ESL kids in a different class on the opposite side of the school. The result was that the school became de facto racially segregated with all Asian and Latino kids on one side and all white kids on the other. It’s not like it served a purpose anyway since none of the teachers could speak anything other than English.

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61 points

I wonder if segregation was the intention.

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18 points

That’s the only thing that makes any sense

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28 points

Sadly, that’s sounds very intentional

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23 points

That’s ridiculous, as a father of a future bilingual baby I would raise hell or move schools.

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119 points

My high school had a rule about the “difficulty” of books you could read. You weren’t supposed to read too high “above your grade”. I assumed this rule was something with the school library and their Accelerated Reader program.

Nope! Tried to give me ISS because I was reading “Screwjack”, which I brought from home. It wasn’t even in class! I was a fucking junior. A high school junior should be able to handle Hunter S. Thompson.

According to them it was “college level” and therefore I shouldn’t be reading it. My father raised absolute hell in that office. Don’t think they tried enforcing that rule again.

They also tried bitching about girls tops until a group of very pissed off redneck fathers had questions about how they were touching the students to measure the width.

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The AR Reading program that was popular in the early 2000s was an absolute disaster. It basically killed my love of reading for almost 10 years. They wouldn’t let me read books “above my level” based on some BS test that used timed reading. I wasn’t dumb, I just sub-vocalized when I read like a lot of people, so I read slowly. Read slow, don’t finish the test, grade poor, so “no books for you!” said the school.

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I get the fact that reading too high above your grade means you may be way over your head in vocabulary and grammar, but it’s not entirely applicable to everyone. I read Pride and Prejudice and one friend said I sounded posh from the language I accidentally started using. So if a high schooler or junior high schooler can handle it, why not?

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If a kid is truly over their head with a book, it won’t be long until they get bored and quit, unless they’re just trying to impress someone and aren’t interested in the book itself.

Kids should be allowed to unlimited learning and curiosity, this spark you have as a child is very powerful if you let it happen and nurture it instead of trying to fit all students in an iron cast thinking that you know what’s best for them.

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Also reading a book with words you don’t understand can teach you new words and concepts. So this is basically just a school not letting their students learn.

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They also tried removed

This! This right here! This comment was edited by the mods or a censor bot! I fucking told you guys they were doing it!

I raised hell under a different name for a politically motivated mod changing my comments to agree with them, so I copied all the original comments into a word document and would edit them back to the original after the mod kept changing it, and they banned that username. This is some bullshit, and it needs to fucking stop.

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Sorry you have to find out this way, but your home instance is run by the authoritarian fanboys who build Lemmy and engineered a filtering of “slurs” like bit–ching (modifying it for your benefit as people not from lemmy.ml can see the original word) directly into the source code. Vote with your feet against this type of idiocy.

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15 points

Well that settles it. I’m moving to another instance.

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I don’t know what you’re on ab, i can see the whole comment?

They also tried bitching about girls tops until a group of very pissed off redneck fathers had questions about how they were touching the students to measure the width.

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I think you know pretty precisely what I’m on about. Was the rant about censorship not clear? 🤣

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I see the uncensored word.

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5 points

I don’t understand. You are on lemmy.ml, which is an instance that does not display slurs in an effort to create a better social environment. It is totally automatic, and doesn’t involve an angry mod manually changing them, because if there really were to be a problem with your post, then the entire post/comment would simply be removed. If you disagree with this, then lemmy.ml isn’t for you, but don’t worry there are many other instances ou there.

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2 points

You ever read a 1-star review on Amazon from someone who was clearly too stupid to know how to use the product? Like someone complaining that a USB-C charger doesn’t work because it doesn’t plug into their iphone?

That’s you. That’s the type of person you are.

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Jesus Christ you’re late to the party. Ever had the perfect thing to say to someone a day too late, after they already left? That’s you. Read the comments, and get over yourself. Like Chandler without the laugh track.

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5 points

Who put the “removed” there and what word was it before?

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Taking a guess, your instance (not the authors) has the profanity filter mentioned in https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/issues/622 in effect. You can switch instances to avoid it. IIRC, it’s disabled by default now (and isn’t active on my instance).

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1 point

Do you have a suggestion for a different instance? This will be my fourth one, sigh. I have one beehaw community I follow and some are vanned by the.

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Mine doesn’t show removed, maybe it got censored:

Nope! Tried to give me ISS because I was reading “Screwjack”, which I brought from home. It wasn’t even in class! I was a f*cking junior. A high school junior should be able to handle Hunter S. Thompson.

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117 points

A couple got caught behind the high school. Girl giving the blowie was made to apologize to the school over the PA system and then “encouraged” to go to a different school where she would “fit in better”. Boy got no punishment.

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Yeah, my high school had a similar issue. There was an “alternative” school that was basically worse in every capacity and every deviant student or pregnant student was “encouraged” to transfer. The wild thing was you would still walk the stage with everyone from the initial high school so graduation day was like 20% people you didn’t even know or thought they moved away.

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Our alternative school was kind of awesome. Great teachers. They let us smoke outside. Work at your own pace.

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