Dunno how I’d have gotten home from school or to soccer practice if I needed an adult, ffs I was staying alone overnight and cooking dinner for myself by 5th grade. How do you acquire independence and skills with someone hovering all the fucking time?
we have infantalized children all the way through high school. no more open campuses, nothing. we live in a world where an 18 year old high school senior has to ask to use the restroom during the day, but could go to her night job as a porn star.
the main issue is parents suing school districts over any little thing, requiring them now to lock everyone down or else
Nah the real issue is that people will cave in to those helicopter parents making everyone else deal with whatever insanity they force onto their children’s
You don’t.
Source: raised by a single parent who yelled and chased me out of the kitchen anytime I tried asking questions of what he was doing.
Now 41, and have NO CLUE how to cook.
at 41 its now your job to train yourself, if you care to. if that is your excuse on a blind date, its a red flag.
Pssshhhhh, if you think lack of cooking is going to affect my dating life, don’t worry. I’ve yet to find the type of woman who’s personality type would mesh well with mine.
So, I can’t remember the last time I had a date, but I do remember always being disappointed. The VAST majority of women look down on you if you tell them that you’ll never have a drivers liscense (me, not her), that you don’t forsee yourself traveling ever, that you don’t like music, and the whole concept of marriage seems like a financial scam from start until either death or divorce.
If I were to date someone long term, I’d need them to be my speed by nature. Them being my speed has to be something that is within their personality, not me trying to get them to slow down.
My idea of a fun Friday night is to stay in, avoid the bars, and maybe watch a dvd. Most women want to go out, go to clubs, or go on a road trip somewhere. I don’t even want to leave my recliner. Although if I was with someone I’d switch to the couch.
But that person doesn’t exist.
That sucks.
If you want to try learning, start with some pasta. Put water on the stove, boil it, add salt and pasta, stir, drain when the box says (don’t cook it too long or it’ll suck), put whatever you want on it. You can start by just pouring a jar of sauce on top and upgrade to something tougher when you’re more comfortable with it.
Similar experience growing up here.
I taught myself every single adult skill in my early 20s. I couldn’t have done it without the internet.
I’m a great cook though. I’ll figure out how to wash clothes without ruining them next.
I remember when I was maybe 14, 2001 or so, and my mom forgot to pick me up from wrestling practice after school.
We lived about 6 miles outside of town, and wrestling is a winter sport, so it was well dark.
I walked home along the side of the highway (in all black because that’s what I had that day…) after waiting well over an hour and calling several times (no cell phones). My options were to continue to sit in the glass entryway indefinitely or just leave and go home. It took me 3 hours, and when I walked in my parents were shocked that they forgot… not that I made it home safely or that I felt feelings… they were shocked at themselves that they forgot about me. (I wasn’t at that point)
I mean hell when I was 5-7 I was walking home from school daily, going around suburb town on my bike, and one time around age 6 I got lost for several hours (only a few streets from home, but so windy and confusing I was just lost…) it ended in trauma and an ER visit, but did not actually cause my parents to restrict my movement, when it absolutely should have. It was normal routine stuff back then.
I’m into parents caring more now, but man if someone had arrested my mother for allowing me freedom I’d… have felt really bad for causing it… that’s also intensely traumatic.
“You’re guilty of leaving your child alone, therefore we’re taking you away from your child.”
Americans have degenerated so fast.
We BEGAN our existence with slave holding white men who created documents to rule the country which stated “All men are created equally”. Then went home, treated the women in their lives like shit for the next 142 years AT LEAST, while also owning slaves.
Today slavery is mostly abolished, and women have equal rights.
Believe it or not, this IS progress…really really slow progress.
Really? That’s disappointing. That sounds like a Texas thing more than a California thing.
Shit, what’s next? Texas raises their min wage to $20 an hour, and tied to inflation?
God damn! These states are losing their identity. Michigan voted red…I mean, I know I’m legally obligated to hate Michigan as a resident of Ohio, but damn. Michigan used to make me jealous of their government. Now it’s voted red.
And yes, I’m aware Ohio also voted red. But we’re Ohio. Nobody was expecting anything cool from us. Michigan had expectations.
Of coarse none of that matters. Without PA, Harris had no path to victory. So, we should all be mad at PA.
So I propose for the next 4 years we boo every PA sports team. Their residents don’t deserve happy sports.
Of coarse, that being said, who CAN you cheer??? I propose Seattle. That way, you don’t have to cheer the Yankees. Plus, you don’t get caught up in the whole Boston fued.
Who’s going to fued with Seattle? Assholes. That’s who.
I started walking to school when I was eight. My parents made sure I knew the way and that was that. And on our bikes we went wayyy farther than a mile unsupervised
Based on the safety plan including “installing a location tracking app on the child’s phone”, the kid has a phone and could easily call for help or be called if there was a concern.
Children used to ride bikes much farther then a mile without even a quarter in their pocket to pay for a phone call.
Never needed money when you could call collect and when prompted for a name you gave a speedy, “mom pick me up at the mall!!” And of course she’d decline the call.
Remember the Duracell ad?