While not a quick and easy process, programming can be alterred. DBT helps.
Yuuup, this person is doing the classic cognitive distortion called catastrophizing. It’s very worth it to work on overcoming any cognitive distortions you have
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
This doesn’t have enough upvotes imo. Contingency hell can be dealt with. (mind you, noting wrong with having a contingency plan or two, but there’s a point where it goes from a healthy survival mechanism to a debilitating maladaptive coping mechanism)
I’m still in contingency plan hell, but I’ve managed to deal with it in some parts of my life and that feeling of just coming out of a situation that used to make you tense AF and then realizing you were not even considering to worry about it is the best feeling even. This was something I never expected to be possible.
And honestly, I have been stressing out about the other bits of my life that are still contingency hell, kinda thinking I might never get rid of them, just how I felt about the things I actually did deal with…
Guess I came here to remind some internet rando’s that it is in fact possible; ended up reminding myself :')
I wish my brain just went one scenario.
Literally the story of Inside Out 2
I know how draining it is to hear someone who verbalizes their worst case scenario for every situation, but they might just be paranoid.
My good friend is paranoid to the point of hearing things that aren’t there. I believe he may be schizophrenic. We’ve talked about it and he can’t shake it. The funny thing is he has so little anxiety compared to me and I’m often envious.
Yeah, the person I know is worried about a lot of things, but doesn’t seem anxious about any of it. Like always being worried that if the temp reaches zero the pipes will freeze, that if it rains then all roads are automatically slippery and dangerous, or that if something is misplaced that it was stolen despite consistently showing up later.
But it is really just assuming the worst will happen, and she moves right on to the next thing.
I do that, and it’s not just mental. It affects what I have access to doing even when I actually have access because I can’t trust it.