When all of your exes get to happily move on in relationships that aren’t you and you get nobody for extended periods of time.
While you’re prideful in yourself to know that whatever relationship you get won’t feel as tainted as theirs because maybe they’re manipulative. The thing about it is that, I’ve tried being upfront, honest, detailed and everything to get someone with.
And I guess working on yourself and trying to improve aren’t exactly attractable qualities.
That I’m part of the group of people who might never own a house, work until I’m 80, and never be able to just work on my dreams until they are reached. Sad thing is that lots of people have it worse. It’s unfair that 99% weren’t born with a golden spoon up their ass and can live on the work of the rest. Shit rolls downhill.
Your post contents themselves deserve a response, but to answer the question: I’ve never bothered thinking life is unfair, I learned this lesson early on as an eldest sibling (and it seems like a lot of other eldest siblings I talk to are slightly more in tune with unfairness than non eldest siblings, but this is anecdotal and I’m not willing to defend this observation)
Life is obviously filled with things that feel fair and unfair, but ultimately fairness is not part of the rules of our reality so there’s no need to determine its presence or abscence.
To speak to your own response, it’s super easy and feels great to imagine those who we feel have wronged us have been suffering ever since we left their lives. Rarely does this ever actually play out that way, nor is it healthy to rely on this line of thinking to find closure, peace, satisfaction, etc. It is more realistic to expect their lives to be fulfilling their goals on some level, and its likely they aren’t miserable at all.
I have no idea what you’re saying after the first section, but there are people out there all along the “is okay with a non ideal partner” scale out there. You can have your flaws and have a partner and a healthy relationship, and anyone worth your time will consider any progress you have already made, even if that’s not always enough to make you the one they want to be with.
I don’t want to make any further statements as this is already too general and assumption heavy, and you do not deserve to be told what to do without an ounce of actual attention to your life. I can guaranteo you’re not alone in the problems you are facing.
I’ve always found riding the waves of life with attention to my goals has worked in a way that leaves me generally satisfied with the process.
Life? Unfair to me?
I’d say it’s all in the Right To Repair movement Vs Planned Obsolescence. I grew up learning how to fix stuff, make stuff, swap parts, etc.
And I still have those skills, but these days the big companies don’t want the little guys to have access to proprietary parts and tools anymore, making many repairs that would otherwise be pretty easy actually almost impossible.
They just want you to throw away all your old stuff every year or two and buy an entire new product. I don’t care what if any deity you believe in, I don’t think the good spirit intended on people throwing everything away and turning Earth into a huge dumpster.
Same. I grew up rebuilding bicycles and skateboards. I made toys to go with my other toys.
Fighting back against this nightmare world takes it out of me. People keep complaining about my tools and equipment because they think it’s some kind of compulsive disorder.
Telling people I do repairs, innovations and inventions on the side sounds like a mental health crisis. They don’t see the brainwashing they’ve been put through as the problem.
It may sound like I’m a conspiracy theorist, but companies and other entities out there who’re actively denying people to self-repair, are knowingly complacent with the idea of keeping people dumb.
So yes, I believe in planned obsolescence, simply because removing the right to repair, voiding warranties, not allowing information to be shared. It’s all part of a scheme to keep people dumb and reliant on throwing away more money to these companies and indirectly committing victimless crimes like polluting and adding to the problems of landfills.
Born to narcissistic parents, full blown clinical depression, anxiety, gay, running out of reasons to live.
Accidentally replied to main thread:
During Obama, i was making $97.5K per year in web development. Bought a house, car, solar panels, (my) American dream.
Three months into the first trump fuckup, 10% of the staff was laid off, myself included.
Spent about 6 months burning through savings, before landing $7.stupid per hour job at Michael’s. Still burning through savings to pay the mortgage, mental health declining because fucking retail.
Pandemic happened, lost job, another 5 ish months doing low paid contract work, savings are gone and I have to go to my parents for help. My parents raised me that asking for help meant you’ve failed. You’re a failure.
Spent a year and three days unemployed. Now working at Target picking online orders. Nothing i do has a purpose, and it’s especially heartbreaking when you see items that you’ve picked getting cancelled and returned to the shelf.
My parents pay my full mortgage and car insurance. I work 40 hours a week, and target is strict on overtime, and i can still only afford to eat 2 out of every 3 days.
There’s more, but it’s a trauma dump with no solutions, unless i can get about $1500 more a month for the next 5 years to get my year long unemployment debt taken care of…
That’s just financial problems. My upbringing turned me into a shy anxiety ridden recluse, i can’t look a cute dude in the eyes, let alone ask anyone out. Last “date” (Grindr hookup) i had, there was a black guy in the white house …
Dating is hard. 9 out of 10 actual dates are strike outs for a second date. Upping your batting average requires you to be the ideal candidate where you are dating.
Mastery of something has a 90% proficiency requirement. The odds stack up enough against a person to the point that any apathy at all might cause them to fail horribly.
Life isn’t unfair as such. It’s between hard and impossible. You really need everyone on your team to make it all work.
My advice would be to help those that will help you and never short them when it’s your shout. Remember names when you meet people, and don’t get distracted when you should be thinking about their lives. Every little interaction will be the light in your eyes and the magnetics in your charm. Start by lighting up your world and make people resonate when they’re around you. And travel a bit to meet people with added charm
