i don’t really need advice yet, it’s just a question. a girl im friends with acts really odd. we are friends, and we used to talk a lot, but then she started getting quieter, making less eye contact.
she also started being tenser/snippy at times.
when she’s not snippy, she’s just very quiet, which is most of the time. sometimes she’ll scoot over next to me but then scoot away, or act like she wants to sit by me but then goes away.
she doesn’t seem to be acting rude at all or mad at me. she will be nice, like smiling and waving and saying “hello”, or energetic when she can respond over text, so i don’t believe i’ve done anything to hurt her, but it’s just been really odd. what, from your experience, make a friend start acting this way? (especially girl because idk about guy friend behaviors)
most of the time, she acts normal, and i appreciate our friendship, and she seems to not hate me or anything like i said
update: i asked bc i was curious abt her behavior as friends, not just wondering if she liked me or anything even if that’s the impression some of y’all get 😭
Is your friendship close enough that you could just mention some of the behaviour you’ve observed and ask what’s up?
A bunch of randos on the 'net won’t be able to tell you any better than she can. If she says she’s fine reaffirm your friendship and tell her you’re there if she needs to talk and otherwise carry on. Not much else you can do without jeopardizing the friendship.
I mean I’m a pod person but, how about you literally just say all this to her instead? Ain’t nobody psychic. Assumptions are stupid, get the facts.
The one thing I’m fairly certain of with women is they are never just “fine”. And if they say they’re “fine”, they most definitely are not.
Yeah that’s tough when you run into a wall like that. Maybe just reiterate that something seems up, and then if she refuses to admit that, you can at least expand on your observations and why you think something is up. Ultimately, if she still refuses to talk about things, you have a binary choice to make. Tolerate it, or walk away.
As others have said, but I want to make more clear, she could be dealing with shit she isn’t ready to share. (Death, Failing Grades, etc)
Reaffirm the friendship. Let them know you are there for them. Ask if they want to do something districting. Hikes, movies, or sit silently looking at the wall.
It can mean one of six thousand different things, none of which will ever be made clear to you.
