If you live in a major city, you might try looking for local writer’s groups. I go to one at a coffee shop near me, same time each week. The person running the cafe gives a prompt and after a couple hours, people can share what they’re working on, but usually no one does. It’s just a quiet space to practice writing with relaxing music in the background. No socialization expected or required. I’m not a fan of caffeine, so I usually get a hibiscus tea and write a poem based on the prompt. Very low key.

Hi there! I‘m not good at pointing out patterns or solutions instantaneously so I‘ll just provide you with the stuff I do. I don’t have adhd to my knowledge but I do struggle with schedules at times.

So, what I do as hobbies to feel better:

• take a walk along a specific route, either with someone or with music on my ears
• if I‘m able to walk many days in succession, I attempt light running, which sometimes works and can lead to a hobby
• if I‘m in pain often, I rather go swimming in a swimming hall. Repetitive swimming motions make my brain go in trance mode. Thats really cool. The secret is to swim slow enough to not have to stop.
• If I don’t feel like going out at all, I try to do light yoga, I listen to yoga with adrian on youtube.
• when I need to see humans (which I try to avoid actively) I do dnd campaigns irregularly or visit a games workshop.

As you can see, I‘m totally okay alone and try not to be with people as we tend to hurt eachother. If I need to, I select them individually. I don’t do groups, ever.

I hope this helps.

If you live in a city and you’re not strapped for cash, mini painting can be a good option. You can walk over to the nearest Warhammer store and they’ll set you up with a mini, some paint, and even give you an intro.

If there’s no Warhammer store but there’s a scale modeling or wargaming shop, they usually have great communities and supplies too.

The reason I recommend this is that a lot of us wargamers or mini painters are weird people. Nerds, introverts, ppl with aspergers or autism, you name it. The store staff is usually used to it and can handle weird. The hobby is infinite. It can go as deep as you want.

If you enjoy walking, I’d suggest seeking out nature. Go for walks in the forest to arrange your thoughts. If that’s not your thing, but you like doing something creative, take lessons for playing a musical instrument. You can go to a community center or someone’s house, there’s limited human interaction and you can keep your mind busy. If that’s not your thing either, seek out what kind of activities community centers nearby offer. Stuff like art classes, maybe darts competitions, talking groups… If you own a car I might even suggest going for drives. If you don’t, get on a train, get off somewhere and explore.

Have you tried disc golf? You can pick up everything you need for $20. Virtually no interaction if you play by yourself. Other disc golfers are generally super chill. It’s fun to work on your technique and try to improve your score.