I wouldnt tell anyone i use Reddit irl let alone Lemmy
I never told anyone I used Reddit, but I’ve def told many about Lemmy (within my foss propaganda I regularly administer upon the unsuspecting, if need be at the urinals).
(Still won’t ever share my username, I don’t like people like that)
I started using Reddit in 2008 (kill me). One of the of the defining traits of the site at the time was the fact everything was anonymous. It was considered taboo to expose your Reddit persona to your irl circles. Hell, I still don’t have an email associated with my Reddit account.
It’s been interesting, and a little tragic, to watch that attitude erode over the years and then see Reddit itself encourage the idea of creating a unique identity to cash in.
Lemmy is way more like the original Reddit & I’ll actually admit to using Lemmy, even though no one knows wtf I’m on about.
(Still won’t ever share my username, I don’t like people like that)
someone in IRL asked me my username once, and I thought it was so weird. Of course, I didn’t tell them.
I only mention Lemmy as a caution, like what to avoid, while I’m mentioning other fediverse social media…
Because I’m a woman and most of the people I know who want social media alternatives are also women, and I’m not subjecting them to this shitshow. I like them too much to bring them here.
I read a similar sentiment yesterday in a thread about apparent misogyny on lemmy. As someone affected, what would you suggest be done to improve the situation?
I must say I have rarely observed the issue myself and if so the offenders generally get down voted to hell and eventually mod deleted. Though I am of course a dude and not frequenting the women centric spaces, so my perception is definitely skewed.
I don’t really think there’s anything that can be done other than policing your own and letting the platform grow.
It’s a whole vibe thing, not just obvious stuff.
For example, whenever there were questions aimed at women (hey ladies, what’s your hair routine? Sort of thing), it’s nothing but a bunch of men spouting off about what their wives or girlfriends do, and maybe a few actual women, but their comments always ended up buried. Nobody actually wants that “the woman in my life does this, I think…” sort of input at all, except other men (which unfortunately is the vast majority of the platform, so those “as a man” comments get heavily upvoted, even when they are obviously full of complete shit). It drowns out the few female voices that actually are around. And if you correct some dude in a post for women voices, about something men typically know nothing about, you’ll get heavily downvoted for it. Not at all welcoming.
I know we have some strong transfem comms, and I’m all for it because all women are women, but the experience of those women is wildly different from cis women, and a lot of the memes and stuff coming from those comms are sort of… cis-excluding and often very off-putting. Which is sort of the only fem representation on here.
It’s just not friendly for women. And so so many things need to change before it really is.
I’ve heard people say, “I saw X on Reddit” I don’t think it’s stigmatized.
Reddit is entirely a “normie” platform now. 6 years ago I was actually made fun of for using it, but now even my grandparents talk about it.
Bragging about Lemmy is just a vessel for bragging about Linux.
Bragging about Linux is just a vessel for bragging about your sick gaming PC.
Lemmy is cool, but that kind of behaviour is quite disgusting to be honest.
It’s 2025. We should be able to piss right next to each other and check each other’s cocks out.
With Lemmy, there could be multiple /c/ock communities – one per instance haha
Me in the yellow shirt: … (turning towards you suddenly in surprise without thinking) … LEMMY! … ME TOO!!! … (as I’m smiling and spraying you with urine)
At least he’s not using the same urinal.
