True dat mate.
O, i know the feeling
And then all of them are “Nicole”.
i have a different pic in my inbox. do i suppose to collect them all? i want a rare Nicole now
You might have received one but we usually delete them pretty quickly. We’re either doing an ok job at fighting spam, or I’m keeping her to myself.
I got a message from nicole with a pic. I thought it was a scammer or something. Just a one off thing. Is that not the case? Is Nicole a lemmy thing?
Nope, your first instinct is right, it’s a spammer. But it’s one of the few specific spammers that almost everyone has run into on lemmy, so it’s just a joke. Like saying you met a Nigerian prince who offered you a huge sum of money.
I have yet to be messaged by this person. Dunno what anybody is talking about. In fact, I’ve never actually been messaged by anybody on lemmy.
Often followed by, “I said that?”
Then you read your original comment and, no, you didn’t say that; someone’s just trying to gaslight you or they’re straw manning.
Or they keep explaining what you already said because they don’t understand nuance or context.
Or your take is just fucking bad and your ego won’t let you admit it, one of the two.
Is it normal for people to regret what they said on here? Because I tend not to change my mind from downvotes and dumb responses. I do block people though
My only regrets are having to read stupid responses that completely missed the point of what I said because they want to argue with what they think I said.
Occasionally I learn something new from responses, which changes my perspective.
I agree - A lot of people seem so prepared for someone to disagree with them that they seem to misfire on people they agree with. I try to avoid this by starting my comments with “I agree” 😊 … though even then some people still get confused 🫠
What are you talking about? You’re way off base, and completely unreasonable. It’s so typical of you people that I have a generalized baseless belief of. What about this other person that has nothing to do with this? Do you agree with them, too? I bet you also hate soldiers defending our country, and probably kittens too.
My own experience with this was posting a shower thoughts thread while quite inebriated, forgetting I’d done it then waking up with a fairly full inbox so nothing controversial or argumentative.
My experience is that I reply to a lot of things, and post very few, and in no case do I have even a vague notion about how many comments what I write will generate. I can guess the vector magnitude of up/down votes, but never the amount of interaction, where people take time to reply.
I mean well, and I want to have hope for the future, but I’m depressed and have untreated ADHD and a desperate need for therapy, and I do worry that I’m letting all that influence how I talk to strangers online.
I’m probably too harsh sometimes, or not harsh enough, or dumb, or stupid, etc, more often than I’d like.
So yeah, I generally regret or worry over everything I say to everyone at some point or another. I suck xD But I’m too lonely to switch off and not talk to anyone entirely, so here we are.
Downvotes sometimes make me want to clarify what I wrote on the assumption that it got misinterpreted.
Has that ever worked for you?
I do it a lot and can’t think of a single time it worked.
I don’t want to deal with arguing especially since half the responses clearly only read the first sentence of my comment. I don’t have the energy for it. So I’m on an instance with downvotes disabled and rarely check my inbox.
If people like my contribution they can upvote, if they don’t like it they can downvote or argue back, but I don’t have the energy to give to that, so I probably won’t see it.
