What really made my stomach turn is that my Aunt had a smile on her face. At first I took it as maybe she’s trying to stay positive about the situation or having some odd nervous reaction but it was a huge huge smile as if she won the lottery. My grandma was not well off by any means so I highly doubt she had much in her will and my uncle was clearly not smiling in the picture.
She was also extremely unempathetic when my dad passed away during my mid 20s, telling me I need to man up and do better in life. I was working, in a relationship and doing my best to help my mom out. Am I overreacting or does she come off as a full blown sociopath?
Nobody here can really give you specific advice based on the few facts. You’re part of this family, you know them better than all of us. If you feel off about it, there’s a reason for it. You’ve come here to ask the question. So I think you’re well within your rights to reduce contact with that side of the family. I would only suggest you quietly ghost rather than making a big stink.
Ya I get what you mean, it’s just keeping me up at 2:30 am so I thought I may as well try to get a third party opinion if possible to see if I’m overthinking, I agree with the ghosting
Most of us don’t have the luxury of choosing our families. We can just try to do the best with the hand we’re dealt. I’m sorry for your loss.
Maybe delete the picture, put the phone down, and try to think of 20 great things about your grandmother.
Nah fuk that.
I stopped talking to the rest of my family after my grandmother died.
My father and brother died first actually.
And nobody was there for me.
Similar snubs at me for not visiting in hospital when I’m working to not starve/be homeless.
😰😓🤬😖
I had to work day of her funeral actually. Lol
Venting over…my mum sent me a picture of our dead family cat Fred in a shoebox to let me know he was dead. Also posted it to Facebook.
I personality took a picture of my father after he passed, in his hospice bed, before the Funeral Home took him away. But I sure as shit didn’t post it anywhere.
Well, if you want a good third party opinion, you should probably write up a few paragraphs about your aunt, include multiple key experiences that can show a couple things about her character, show the photo she took, show the reactions to the photo by others, talk about how the other people in that photo felt why they wanted to take the photo, and probably a couple more personal questions about you and others of your family.
I had to gently tell my mom to stop fucking posting pictures of me intubated at the hospital and various other states of literally dying on facebook, not only because I didn’t consent, but also because that shit is weird. Never mind that if that had ended up being the end, I don’t want my hairy man boobs to be the last thing people see of me.
Reading the main post and other comments you’ve made giving more context, IMO you are correct, your aunt is a narcissistic sociopath.
Ya I’ve decided I’m not talking to that side of the family at all anymore, there’s been too much BS and this camel’s back is now FUBAR
Did they throw up a peace sign?
Your aunt sounds awful though.
My paternal grandma died last year. And my dad remarried in 2017.
Not really enough time for his new wife to establish much rapport.
Dad had always been a Mama’s boy and lived most all of his life clinging to his mom’s skirts anyway.
Yet when grandma died it was the new wife who casually sent me a picture taken with her phone of my grandma’s corpse in the hospital bed.
Horrifying, and very inappropriate. All of this is to say that I can relate to your situation and no, you aren’t overreacting.
