Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we’re all about breaking corporate chains right?
So these are the thoughts I had:
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Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.
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ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
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E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it’s possible).
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Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.
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Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we’re here for love lol
I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).
Somehow you’d want to continuously federate new instances to keep the userbase connected.
Does Lemmy do this? Like I said, almost no coding experience here, I took a couple of years of AP Comp Sci (Java) in high school and it stuck like the couple of years of Spanish class in middle school (es un tigre in mis pantolones).
I don’t think it federates, but there’s Alovoa, an open source dating platform.
You know, I am single and have been curious about dating apps for a while. But I never really got over the hurdle of making a profile because of how much of a hellscape it seems. I may be curious enough to make a profile in this website tonight (fully expecting 0 users in my entire country)
I took the leap last year into algorithmic dating, and it’s been a great experience. Go in with no expectations just try to have as much fun, delight, conversation, wonder as possible and roll with the punches. There is always an adventure waiting.
I’ve meet with people all over, done little adventures, and got good friends out of it, and even some romance. Toally worth it to explore.
When you say algorithmic dating, did you try multiple apps or just one? Did you have more positive experiences with any one app?
I may do it, but I’m a bit shy about the account creation part, specifically having to take pictures of myself which are not terrible. I feel like I’m decently attractive, but I hate all pictures of me. I think this is honestly my biggest hurdle.
I’m a coder and I have no idea how to do this
Do you want it to show matches with people who are around your location, or anyone on the internet? If it’s the latter, maybe try starting a dating community, if there isn’t one already.
You could have people start a thread with the basic info: age, location, gender, sexuality, etc. Then what you’re looking for: age range, hookup or long term, etc.
The comments could be general questions like an AMA to get a better idea.
If someone likes your style, they can send OP a DM
Federated or not, dating sites don’t work well
I’m getting married next week. Met her on Tinder. Sometimes they absolutely do work
I used some dating apps on and off for about 4 years and got probably a couple dozen or so genuine not bot matches. Most of which didn’t last for more than a message or two. Even ran my profile by some of my women friends who I trust and they said it looked good. While obviously it works for some people, the experience for most people isn’t that great. These apps make their money by keeping people on the platform so getting matches goes against their main profit motive. The traditional methods work a lot better.
ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
The overlap between the users who will run their own instance and the users you want for a dating app is the empty set.
(Speaking as someone that runs a personal Lemmy instance here)
